Friday, September 19, 2008
While Keisha is at the MAC counter buying the newest trend of makeup to look wonderful to the world, I'm standing in the mirror trying to see through my eyes my soul. The "layers" we hold make up the core that lies within us. We always want someone special in our lives especially the ones we hold close to our heart to know every layer of us. We say to our self they should want to get to know all the layers of me. Appearance attracts the man, but will it keep him there in the long run? The black woman is sick of cheating, lies, and dogs. I hear it I see it everyday. Some women say "I must have loser posted on my forehead because that's all I get". I say you are in some way what you attract. If we are to treat and think of our selves as trash will we not get that in return? Our layers are deep but have you peeled back every layer to see the core within. When the flesh is gone will your spirit shine? Its not the make-up, hair, or clothes that make you. It's your spirit that can out shine the flesh. The core of you is your spirit. Looking at your self and being honest with the your self might help you find it. I found my spirit through "the truth" and Christ. A black man that came in the flesh to show us perfection that showed us the way. He is real and he is in me. Deep within the layers is a spirit that lives and breathes the positive, you just have to pray the Lord helps you find it.
My mother taught me the meaning of "family" and the bonds it holds. I never understood it entirely until I had my own. During slavery times white master would do everything in his power to destroy the bond of the black family. One way are another we held together. Even if daddy got sold up the river because the family was too strong with love. The little boy would remember his daddy's presence. Mama would keep his memory alive to her children. Now in the present the "black family" is dying but we refuse to see it. The bonds our ancestors would never break we cut everyday. Sleeping around and having children with just any man is okay. Father's not being within the family unit for both mother and child is at a rise. Seeing a black man take care of his children is not a norm and looked at like a side show project to others. Our respect and dignity has vanished. Many black men never really make bonds with their family when older and lack to have their children get to know their family. Why is that so common in the black community? Name one black child that will say "I dont really know my mother's side but I do know my father's". It's always the other way around. If both sides of the families' blood run through this child there should be a bond on both. I say I will break the cycle becauseI am raising boys that will become men and have families. I will teah them the bond of family and their children will grow up to know their father's family. Our children hold our legacy. Let us keep the black family alive to push forward to forever. Sorry if this blog is too much for you but my thought are real and run deep.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
I was watching Dr. Phil. Yes, I was watching Dr. Phil. Don't act like you don't. The topic of the show was about the "N" word. On the show Paul Mooney was mentioning about how they did the doll test in the 1960's and then recently did the test again. The children when asked which one is pretty the black child would choose the white doll. The same test in the past was given recently and it showed the same results. I found this sad but not shocking. My close friend was telling me her daughter was making fun of her lips. She told her mother her lips poked out and were big. I laughed when my friend told me this because I was like wow she has lips just like yours. Who told her big lips were ugly? My own son doesn't like to wear his hair out and has a problem if I let his little brother wear an Afro. Where did he get this? I know I didn't teach him to feel that our hair must be tamed to be beautiful. What about the children that chose the white doll in the test? We must surround our children with the beauty of black images. Read to them about it. Have beautiful black images on the wall. Media, strangers, or maybe sometimes we have tainted our black children's views on beauty. They say: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Through the eyes of a child we have the opportunity to guide them the right way. I refuse to let my sons feel they are ugly in this society. Let us always examine the thoughts and words our children bring to us. The black woman today with her hair dyed blond and fake blue eyes could had been the little girl playing with the white baby doll. Her mama never told her what was beautiful she just knew from what she saw on television. Think about it...
Mamas, Fall is approaching fast. I just recently did a blog on a black queen, so I see this fitting to go with the "theme" of royalty. Purple is the "it" color this season. Purple in beautiful jewel tones will have your closet updated and turning heads. Not only can you wear this color in your accessories but try to incorporate fun jewels tones in your clothes. You cant go wrong with purple. Also try yellows and grays to give purple a pop in your wardrobe. Do this trend right Mamas. I don't want to my girls out on the street looking like Barney. I know that was corny but on a real note check your self in the mirror. If you have doubt in your mind about your clothes, change your outfit.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
"Oh, yo baby got some good hair." People say that about my oldest all time. I reply "What's good hair?" Really what is good hair? I believe my son's hair is beautiful but my son Skye's hair is beautiful too. Skye's hair is a different texture but that's what makes it beautiful. The diversity in texture and color. A lady told me yesterday at work she used to go see a friend of the family at a nursing home every week. She would come to check up on her and give her some company. The lady is 90 years old. Well the lady at my job said she had a short little Afro when she saw her and the lady said to her "How you gonna be yellow and have short, nappy hair?" She said it really hurt. Back in the day if you were yellow you were suppose to have" good hair" and long hair. They would say you must got white or Indian in your family. Really listen to the ignorance we speak among one another and to one another. I guess my niece that is light or what people call high yellow didn't make the cut. She has very thick beautiful hair that is easy to manage. God forbid she walks around without it done. Well then she is just walkin around like a lil ol' yellow buck wheat. All of us nappy head folks should just put ourselves in "Black Face". If Christ has nappy hair then why are we ashamed. Revelations 1:14 His head and his hairs were white like wool, as white as snow; and his eyes were as a flame of fire. Now that scripture doesn't describe the white man you see displayed on a cross with stringing long hair. All black hair is good hair. Happy to be nappy, happy to be wavy, happy to be curly. All of our hair is beautiful. Our hair makes us unique and beautiful. Think about it.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Don't adjust your eyes or look twice. Yes she is a black woman. Queen Charlotte Sophia was beautiful and intelligent. She was the consort of King George the 3rd and yes he was black as well. The mother of 15 children and queen of England. Queen Charlotte contributed greatly to England. Some of her contributions are still known today. She created orphanages, maternity wings in hospitals, and much more. I just wanted to inform you Mamas on a beauty unknown. Society doesn't want you to see how great you are. We come from royalty that carried themselves with dignity.When can we call ourselves queens? The title of a queen must be found within. The title wont make sense if you don't show it and live it. Read up on Queen Charlotte Sophia. The essence of a Queen comes from the beauty you already possess.
-Peace 2 The Queens
Hey Mamas, sorry 4 the absence
but I'm back. You ladies know
I can't write unless I feel it or live it. So this is what I've been thinking, what happen to us? I wonder at times where has the black woman's style gone. We had classic beauty once upon a time. Now being lady like or being unique is non- existing. We would rather wear tight jeans all the time then to dress like a lady. Funny thing happen to me recently. I was out dressed like a lady with a hat on and walking with my sons. Two other black women go pass me with their pajamas on and scarfs around their head. They look at me like I'm wrong for being outside. I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. Classic beauty has been thrown out the window. When will we reclaim the respect and dignity our sister, mothers, grandmothers, set for us in the beginning? I remember when I was younger I was about to go out on a date. My grandmother was visiting and she saw what I had on. She told me "Leave something to the imagination." I was mad at her because I didn't understand she wanted me to cover up to show respect for my self. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. All I can say is I learned. I was born a lady I just had to realize it. We all have classic beauty. Let it shine!!!