Friday, June 25, 2010

Success:Does this come with a cost?... (For a Woman)

Hey Mamas,

You remember that movie Baby Boom? Well this movie has been recently coming on lately. I used to watch it with my mother and sisters when I was younger. I would watch it but never truly understand it. My sisters and I would ask my mother dumb questions about the movie and my mother would explain to us the situation like we were So recently while watching it I finally understood the movie and could relate it to my life. My sons were watching it with me and were asking the same dumb questions I was asking when I was younger but I realized something... they are boys. Little boys become men and will never truly understand this movie. If you never seen Baby Boom its about this woman that has a career at this firm. She is very powerful and focused on her career. Being a woman she doesn't want anything to stop her from making partner but a great unexpected change awaits her in the future. Her cousin dies and wants her to take over the care of raising his daughter. In a split second her life changes and a little baby girl turns her world upside down. I have to say the major part in the movie that affected me is when her boss said a woman cant be successful like a man. If she decides to get married or have a baby she wont be able to perform her duties on the job like a man can. The sad thing and I believe its true... that she cant. Some women will think I'm crazy but think about it. Usually a woman has to give up something to make life easier in the home. In the movie the lady became successful but she had to sacrifice some things. She ended up moving, working from home, having a crib in her office, and sometimes taking her daughter with her to do business. I don't think it is horrible or wrong that we have to sacrifice and make changes as women to have successful careers but it can be more difficult. At times I feel our fight can be harder but it makes us stronger. A famous author I remember watching on show has six children. When they were younger she said she would be up in the middle of the night writing her books. She went on to say cant count how many times one of her children would get up needing something or watching her type. A successful career for a woman comes with a cost and many sacrifices. I don't think it should get in any woman's way of achieving her goals. Can she have it all? I guess in our own little way we have just what we need.


1 comment:

  1. A lot of times woman believe in love or what they think is love, just to realize as time goes on that it was all lies. Men can really mess up a woman's life if it is allowed. Look at all the movies where women sacrafice their lives, careers, and self-worth for men. It's all true. Then, what do men do, they move on with someone else. Men do not like a lot of responsibility. They actually run from it. It is not attractive to them. As a result, woman are left picking up the pieces of their shattered lives and try to put their lives back on track. I agree, most men can basically do as they please and it is easier for them to get ahead and be successful. Most men don't have to watch the kids(be it 1, 4,or 5), they don't have to worry about childcare while they work, they can relax when they get home and they can come and go as they please. Women must first learn to accept the fact that they did not plan their lives carefully or wisely if they really wanted a successful career while having children. Next, they must pick up the pieces of their lives and try to do the best that they can while raising children. Sometimes it will take a woman decades to get her life back. It depends on how many children she has and how hard life is for her. Each child is about 5-10 years of devotion. When we make a choice to have children, that needs to be the priority and career success and everything else has to be secondary. I have 3 children and I had to accept that I made mistakes. As a result, I have to make my children first and accept the reality of my life instead of living in a fantasy world. It is hard enough for progressive young woman without children to be successful in these times. I blame myself because I did not listen to people wiser than me that could see me through away my dream. My dream has changed now and now it involves my children and me being a single mama.