Wendy Williams said...How 2 wear a FUR COAT

We LUV IT!

Always sexy & cool

That's So Wedge-tastic!

Wear them now with skinny jeans...

Wear them later with skirts and dresses...

Have fun all year round...

That's So Wedge-tastic!

A Mommy Break

Every mother deserves a break from it all. Last month I got to have a break from the entire family. I must say at first the silence was scary. I enjoyed my evening with great relaxation, a night out , and returning home to peace and quiet. As mothers majority of the time we  forget to self love ourselves. We spend most our lives making sure the family is good. At the end of the day there is no time for mommy. A break is always needed and will help you come back to your family a much happier person. Your break can be a couple of hours, a day, a evening, or a week. A mother should always try to take a break and pamper her self. Why not?...You deserve it!

So I made a fun list of things mommies can do on their break.

• Have a self pampering day for yourself at home. My sister got me a bag of pampering goodies to use just for me. I did the things I rarely get to do like paint my nails...lol.
• Stay at a hotel for the night by your self. Order room service or go out with your friends for the night.
• Get a facial or massage...Its great to relax and get pampered by someone else.
• Go play a sport or game with a friend or something more laid back like a game of pool. I love to play pool.
• Go exercise...one of the best ways to relieve stress.Yoga classes are great!
• Take time to meditate and pray... The best way to feel better and restored.
• Take an adventurous mini vacation by your self or with your girls. 

Whatever you do have fun and enjoy your break!

-Peace Mamas

The Winter Skin Cure

The cold weather is here to stay for a while and thermostats are being turned up. During the winter dry skin and chapped lips are common to many young and old. You may wonder why in the winter our skin is usually dry, tight, and flaky. There are 2 main causes for dry skin. The dry heat in your house and the cold weather outside are the major causes of dry skin. Also bar soaps, layered clothing, and not changing your skin care products seasonally cause dry skin. Bar soaps tend to dry out the skin and strip your skin of the natural moisture it produces. Layered clothes can cause friction on the skin and produce the skin to flake more. You can keep wearing layers but you must first make sure your skin is well hydrated. Its a must to change your skin care products seasonally. The products that worked for you in the spring and summer won't always do the best job in the fall and winter. The cure for winter skin can be achieved by these simple steps:

• Place humidifiers in rooms where you sleep. Plants are also a great way to keep the air moist in the house. You can also place bowls of water on the vents to create moisture.
• Use body washes that have cream and moisture in them. Dove and Caress have great body washes that help moisturize the skin
• Try thicker lotions with AHAs(alpha hydroxy acid) in them.
• Exfoliate the body with sugar or dead sea salt scrubs.
• Make sure to use products for the face and body that contain a SPF of 15.

Perfect winter skin is only a few steps away!

Neckin Around...

A whole neck of fun!

Scarves and Cowls are the best way to stay warm and change up your wardrobe.

Cute in the face & small at the waist

I recently was asked by my friend "What are some ways I can give myself a waist when shopping for clothes?" Many women have had this problem. Women that have this problem usually have an body shaped like an oval or upside down triangle. The key way to make a waist is to bring the eye inward towards the body. So the next time you go shopping check out my tips below. My tips also work for women with midsection problems.

• Try belts under the bust or at the waist
• If you wear a belt at the waist or bust... try black or a color darker than the dress or shirt.
• Wear jeans that come high up on the waist. Make sure their not "mom jeans"...lol Wearing low waisted jeans leaves room for you to have a muffin top.
• A body shaper or Spanx (www.spanx.com) are great to bring in the waist and create smooth lines under your clothes.

  So fear no more a small waist is achievable even if you think you can't have one!

Winter Lace!

Who said you cant wear lace in the winter...
Find out how to wear it!

Where my girls @?

I was just recently looking for an old song by the girl group 702. I wanted to play it for my sister to see if she remembered the song. We started naming the songs we liked from 702 and other girl groups in the past. Then we both realized there are no more good black girl groups. In the late 80's and 90's you had En Vogue, TLC, Xscape, SWV, Changing Faces,Jade, and so may more female groups.Can't forget Destiny's Child. Now majority of the time we see one black female dressed like a slut and can't really sing. If the singer can sing she usually sings about sexual things she might want to keep to her self. I'm not saying the girl groups in the past always sang about positive things but they had a lot more class than singers today. I miss the black girl group era that gave us pride to see them perform. En Vogue showed black women how to be sexy with class. TLC told black women to take care of your self and have fun being a woman. SWV showed women how to be sweet but still be a little street. Girl groups showed unity and love among black women. What happened to all the great black girl groups?...

Where my girls @?

I learned something from Rudy Huxtable...the principle thing

Today I was watching the Cosby Show. Rudy had picked out this purple summer dress to wear to her friend's party. Her mother told her it was fall and too cold for the dress to be worn outside.She then went to her father and asked to wear the dress. Her mother caught her asking her dad and Rudy got in trouble for going over her mother's decision. Vanessa was leaving out with her boyfriend Robert to the mall and had on a summer shirt...pastel pink and short sleeved. Rudy saw the shirt and questioned Vanessa about her wearing summer clothes during fall. Vanessa let her know she was older and could pick her own clothes. She told Rudy you need direction from mommy its good for you. Rudy needed to learn the principle of things to move on to greater freedom.

     Okay, yes I did ramble on for a minute but I had to let you know the story. Its funny because my friend I stayed up late one night talking about somethings similar to Rudy's story. When we are young we hate our parents telling us no. As a child you want your freedom and think your parents are being mean. When really your parents are rearing you towards being a responsible adult.  Parents will watch their child to understand what they can do or what they are not ready for. The same principle goes for God. He gives and lets certain things happen to you to see how you handle things. You have to first make sure a foundation is established to obtain different levels of spiritual freedom and physical freedom. You learn the principle of what makes a foundation strong as a child and also as an adult. Every step you make must have some support to it or you will be right back to the same spot. The great thing is when you make the same mistakes if your foundation is strong you can get back up again and keep going. Rudy had to learn she cant pick out her clothes yet with out understanding the wheather. Summer clothes are for summer not fall. Vanessa let her know a jacket must be worn if I wear this summer shirt. Rudy was learning and after she had a good cry her dad helped her pick out a wonderful Fall outfit. If you have the foundation of the basics you can never go wrong. There is always a lesson to learn in life no matter if its good or bad.

THE BOOK is here!!!

I'm excited to say I have finally finished my book Chronicles of Blaque Beauty Mama Vol.1. It has taken me some time to write it but I believe well worth the wait. The book is very similar to my blog but much of the tips, advice, and lesson will last for years.I will first put the book out in ebook format for people to read online and then start the process of getting my book out there ready to sell. Also my readers that live in other countries over in Europe, China, Canada etc. you can purchase the ebook as well. I'm hearing that ebooks are really becoming popular. The cover to the book is to the right of my blog page...click on the book and it will send you to the site to purchase Chronicles of Blaque Beauty Mama Vol. 1. I'm also in the works of writing Vol.2 so being looking for that soon. I just hope many like my first book. Thanks for the support in advance.

You can also click this link below to get to my ebook site...
http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/blaquebeautymama

-Peace & Many Blessings

Party Pants

Party Pants by blaquestyle featuring low rise jeans

Who said it was all about the dress this holiday season...

A Silent Cry

 
      

          A happy smiling face is not always true anymore. People will talk the game and look like their coping and say nothing but I'm okay. In your mind you take their okays and continue never questioning if its true.We go through out our busy days never really focused on checking on another. It takes only a few minutes to call a loved one to ask them how are you today. My mother calls me everyday to ask me if I'm OK. I love my mother for that because she will do it everyday regardless if I'm having an attitude. Its sad and hurts me to my heart to be so involved with my own life to not hear others silent cries. Whoever may be crying silently may not be dealing with their situation honestly. So many times we bottle our feelings up, lash out at ones close to us, or remain quiet in our pain. You have to be honest with your situation to heal. First you have to admit you have a problem within your self without pointing any fingers. Then you can truly get the help you deserve after admiting the problem you have is within your self. I have looked over more than one person in my life silently crying and didn't see the signs until it was too late. If your reading this and hurting without communicating your pain I strongly urge you to just talk to someone honestly. Talk to someone you trust that is not involved in your pain. If you are someone that senses someone silently hurting be there and call them or let them know you care.My prayers and love goes out to anyone in a bad situation suffering quietly within. Problems always have a resolution even if it doesn't seem like there is an answer.

I Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. Your not alone...TTYL

Back 2 Love

So I, Gotta find my way back, way back, to you baby. 
Trying to find my way back, way back, to you baby.
 Gotta find my way back, way back, to you to us, to love 
-Jaheim


Who ever said loving one another is easy. At times love becomes even more complicated when tribulation comes. We hate the bad times but love when all is good. Have we ever sat down to think the bad times makes us appreciate the good. Sometimes separating gives you time to reflect and go back to your first love. Love has to be found within your self with Christ first before you can love someone else. We go through endless circles wondering will we ever love again. In our mind so much bad has happen we believe love can never exist again. We  must first truly know what love is... its not an emotion or a condition. So many people will say love is Christ but never really understand the saying. Following what Christ wants you to do for your self first and then to others makes love never end but continue. If I'm doing what I can to please Christ then I will in turn be able to please everyone around me...husband, children, sisters or brothers. Finding our way back to each other in a relationship must first begin with healing within your self. If you cant love alone how can you love another person?

Party Time...Time 2 Dress Up 4 Holiday Fun!

Its a time of celebration and the holiday season is just around the corner. During a time of  celebration parties will come your way. Last year the hottest party dress was the "balloon dress". Now this year you have a wide variety of hot numbers to wear. I'm finding the new party dresses to be fitted, sparkling, sweet heart necklines, and lengths that fit any occasion.Most short party dresses can be paired with open toed short booties or suede pumps.Longer dresses are great with a nice pair of heels opened or closed. Be able to first answer these questions before you go searching for your dress...

• What type of party are you attending?...Is it a Black Tie Event, House Party, Yacht Party, Office Party...etc.
• What is the weather and area of the party? Will it be outdoors or indoors?
• Do you have to travel long or short to get to the party?
• What are the best features on your body? Knowing this will help you choose the right type of dress.
• What color do you want to wear?
• How long will you be at the party?
• What style are you looking for?

Once you can narrow down those few questions it will be easy to find your perfect party dress.Also think of a theme for your look. You might want to be "Sparkling Vintage Gold " or "Neutral Suede with a hint of Color". Have fun shopping and looking for great dresses. Its always nice to look your best for any occasion.

TTYL...

She has a gun & she knows how to use it...

         I was watching Dateline about women carrying concealed weapons while out alone or with friends. One particular woman the report was focused on carried a purse that allowed her easily to pull her gun out and shoot. She told the reporter she now carries the gun because she saw her husband shot right in front of her. A man during her husband's karaoke party  was bothering her and was kicked out of the event. After the party  the guy waited for them to come out and shot her husband repeatedly in front of her. In Nashville you can carry concealed weapons inside public places but you cant drink and you must take classes. I think what hit me the most is when the woman on Dateline said that a cell phone and mace is just not enough for her.

     A woman with a gun has been very taboo. Yes, we have women police officers and women in the military that are familiar with regular gun usage. How many women do you know have a gun or know how to shoot one? I remember on Harlem Nights the character Jasmine Guy was playing was sent to kill Eddie Murphy. She had this tiny little gun tucked away under her pillow.The character Eddie Murphy played laughed him self to tears when he found her gun. Back in those times depicted in that movie a great deal of women had guns and knew how to shoot them. Guns and women are not that  common in our society now but should a lot more of us learn to use one. I hear so many times about rapes, kidnapping, and etc. happening to women. I guess a rapist would never be expecting a woman to pull a gun out on him. Let's face it a woman will always be seen as an easy target. If you don't want to go the gun route maybe some self defense classes wouldn't hurt. Let's face it we live in a sick world. So mamas what do you think...Would you learn how to shoot a gun to protect your self?

For Colored Girls ...BB Mama's review

     I finished out my birthday week with a bang and what better way to do it was with my close sisters. My twin and I chose to have a movie and dinner night with our friends. I must say this was a really nice week and if my sisters are reading this thank you! We went to see For Colored Girls and I must say I was blown away. My mind is racing with so many thoughts in how I embraced this movie. The movie was raw, real, and took a deep look into the lives and souls of  black women. People may ask which color are you but I cant say one. I came out  of the movie theater feeling like a rainbow. I identify with each lady and their struggle in some way. One of my friends said she could also identify with the men in the story and I could understand it. The men had issues within in them that many can relate to in their lives as well.


      For Colored Girls is based off a book and play by Ntozake Shange.Its amazing this book of poems were written many years ago and still ring true and can touch the hearts of many. The story covers issues such as sexual assault, physical abuse, death, life choices and much more. The ages of the women vary and give the plot variety and depth. I love how Tyler Perry kept the monologues in the story and how they came in randomly like songs speaking to your heart placing together puzzles of their lives. In the movie each woman had a color they betrayed and you get to see how their colors change through life experiences they encounter.I don't want to give away too much but the movie stays true to the hearts of black women. Black men might already think this is a male bashing movie but its not at all. The movie more so goes into the depths of issues  black women have faced or may experience in the future. In all of the women I have experienced similar issues. Be ready for a wound to be opened and thoughts to be provoked in your mind of your own life. I cried , I laughed and I screamed at some of the images I saw. I mainly cried holding back tears because I had no tissue. So bring plenty of tissue if you are a cry baby like me. 


     I truly enjoyed being able to see beautiful women of color act out roles without being betrayed as buffoons in a comedy, the neck rolling diva, or the bitter angry black woman with attitude . The women in For Colored Girls can be you, your mother, sister, your aunt or your friend. You might at the end identify with all or just one. After the movie I saw other women wiping their tears away and going on to face their lives. In weakness we find strength to move on. Dark times my occur in your life but a light will be at the end of the tunnel or shall we say a beautiful rainbow. If you saw the movie I know you understand my words. If you haven't saw it ... go see it! For Colored Girls is a must see. 


TTYL....

In search of the good cookie...

   Cookie Monster always loves one good cookie. Well ok the truth is out... I watch too many kiddie shows and I love cookies. My friend's daughter was over and their family always eats healthy food I would probably never try anything organic if it wasn't for them. After my friend picked her daughter up I saw her cookie left behind. I read the label NOatmeal Raisin. I thought to my self yuck...a healthy cookie. I continued reading the label ...made without wheat or gluten. I have tried certain organic or vegan made food but never really like the taste. I love the way my friends cook their food but never do it my self.


    So after smelling the cookie...lol I decided to try it. I tried one bite and fell in love with the taste of the cookie. My youngest son and I ate the cookie up forgetting it belonged to someone else. Daniele will probably get me for eating Yapah's cookie if she reads this blog. The company is called Sun Flour Baking Company and their tag line is "The Feel Good Cookie". You don't have to feel guilty for eating this big cookie because its a great source of fiber and calcium. Another great thing is the label has all the ingredients on it and you can read every word. It's great to know there is a one great healthy cookie out there with delicious flavor. OK enough cookie talk I'm starting to sound like my boy Cookie Monster(wink @ my buddy Ethan & his Mommy Sab).

If you like to know where to purchase a "Feel Good Cookie"...check out www.SUNFLOURBAKING.com
Try their cookies. I dont think you will be disappointed.
TTYL...

The Grass is Greener?

  After having some bad experiences with Cavalier telephone I decided to switch phone services. CLEAR won me over to move on after watching tons of their commercials. My thought was I was moving on to something better. While I waited for my phone to be switched over the Internet service was up with CLEAR.  I thought to myself wow the Internet runs faster with CLEAR. I was hooked and well pleased until my phone was fully switched over and the problem begun. My voice comes in muffled to others and sometimes my phone line is dropped in the middle of a conversation. Now I want to go back to Cavalier but I've came to far to go back. So in my mind I'll just stick it out with CLEAR. I will let them know my problems and hope the phone service gets better with time.

    
        You may be wondering why the hell is she talking about phone companies. If you really think about it we always have a "grass is greener" moment in life. Sometimes we may wonder if I chose her or him what would my life be like? If I went to this school would I be more successful like Kelly or John. If I was living her life I would be much happier. Life lessons surround us in the smallest matters but its only up to us to learn the lesson. So sure you might move on to someone better sometimes. Other times you can move on and experience someone way worse than the one before. The grass is greener logic is you think "I'm missing out on something better" or "I just want to experience something new".

      I don't think its wrong to try new things or experience new people(like a new set of friends..etc) but you have to weigh out the pros and cons. At the end of your decision if you hop over to the other side you have to deal with the choice you made. Life is full of choices and sometimes you might not know if your choosing the right one. So with decisions and hopping fences choose wisely and if its a bad hand suck it up and take it like a woman or man. TTYL...

Do you have Codependency?

I wanted to write this blog article after talking to a friend. Most people think codependency is the sharing of dependence. You think yes in my relationship we depend on each other. The truth is codependency is a person that likes someone to depend on them. A woman with codependency usually likes to be with a man that treats her horrible, he is very needy, and she does everything for him but never gets her needs fulfilled. She likes the fact that she is needed and may do this with other people in her life that are needy. Basically this woman loves the needy and wants to help out the victim.

    A man with codependency is pretty much the same. He likes a woman that depends on him that is very needy and weak. You may have watched the stories and remember certain male characters such as Ridge or Holden Snyder that loved to be "captain save a hoe". Most times these men would go for the victim. Holden would love when Lily was suicidal or ill. You may say well there is nothing wrong with wanting to help a needy person but a person with codependency usually looks for a person needy and unhealthy mentally. Their need to be needed makes them unhealthy.

  Lets say the needy person doesn't need help anymore...a codependent person will be angry or no longer want to deal with the person that is strong. A stable and strong minded person in a codependent person's life is a threat. Most people have a want to help others and there is nothing wrong with that. A mother and father know their children will depend on them and most times a child will be needy to their parents. As parents we teach our children to stand on their own and grow to be independent. A codependent person must accept they have a problem and find out why they want to be needed. I'm not a psychiatrist but I hope this may help someone that may have this problem. Sometimes we may wonder why do I deal with this person and they are so unhealthy for me. You may wonder why you go over board excessively to make sure this person is taken care of and never taking care of you.

Do you have codependency?

Eye & Brow Makeover: Why it can do wonders for the face...

    Sleepless in Baltimore this has been my nights for many weeks. I haven't felt like writing but finally was motivated after attending a spa day for my friend's birthday. My sleepless nights are causing my eyes to look tired and old. I have bags and dark circles...this combo is not  a girl's best friend. A spa day with my girls was at the top of my list. Mama was in need of a makeover and some TLC.

   I was blessed to sit in the chair of top makeup artist Aqueelah Williams. I have recently did a interview about her in an earlier blog...check it out. So back to my makeover miracle. I told my friend a million times I need a transformation on my eyes. I never really had eye brows and my brows grow in a certain way due to an accident that happened as a child. Aqueelah got to work on my brows. When she told me she wanted to shape my brows another way I was hesitant but willing to see the difference. I usually shape my brows in a way that gives me a skinny brow tail but I make up for that by filling in my thin areas. I looked in the mirror and saw Aqueelah gave me more eyebrows than before. I was amazed at the difference. My eyes were looking better already. After applying my makeup she applied single eye lashes on my lash line. She applies them much differently than the Asian women that use krazy glue on your eyes...lol. The lashes are guaranteed to last on your eyes for at least 1-2 weeks. I must say I love my new lashes that are still on as I type. When I came home later on I washed my face and saw a brand new person. My eyes are open and my brows are shaped to perfection. It wasn't just the makeup that made me look alive. A true makeover starts with the basics of a great foundation. Always remember take care of the eyes.The eyes are the main attraction of the face and the brows are a beautiful frame. If you live in the Baltimore and would like a brow & lash makeover by Aqueelah Williams...spend me an email (go 2 my contact page)...and I will give you her contact information. TTYL.