Who is stealing our babies' image of beauty?

I was watching Dr. Phil. Yes, I was watching Dr. Phil. Don't act like you don't. The topic of the show was about the "N" word. On the show Paul Mooney was mentioning about how they did the doll test in the 1960's and then recently did the test again. The children when asked which one is pretty the black child would choose the white doll. The same test in the past was given recently and it showed the same results. I found this sad but not shocking. My close friend was telling me her daughter was making fun of her lips. She told her mother her lips poked out and were big. I laughed when my friend told me this because I was like wow she has lips just like yours. Who told her big lips were ugly? My own son doesn't like to wear his hair out and has a problem if I let his little brother wear an Afro. Where did he get this? I know I didn't teach him to feel that our hair must be tamed to be beautiful. What about the children that chose the white doll in the test? We must surround our children with the beauty of black images. Read to them about it. Have beautiful black images on the wall. Media, strangers, or maybe sometimes we have tainted our black children's views on beauty. They say: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Through the eyes of a child we have the opportunity to guide them the right way. I refuse to let my sons feel they are ugly in this society. Let us always examine the thoughts and words our children bring to us. The black woman today with her hair dyed blond and fake blue eyes could had been the little girl playing with the white baby doll. Her mama never told her what was beautiful she just knew from what she saw on television. Think about it...


-Peace Mamas

Get Royal this Fall!!!

Mamas, Fall is approaching fast. I just recently did a blog on a black queen, so I see this fitting to go with the "theme" of royalty. Purple is the "it" color this season. Purple in beautiful jewel tones will have your closet updated and turning heads. Not only can you wear this color in your accessories but try to incorporate fun jewels tones in your clothes. You cant go wrong with purple. Also try yellows and grays to give purple a pop in your wardrobe. Do this trend right Mamas. I don't want to my girls out on the street looking like Barney. I know that was corny but on a real note check your self in the mirror. If you have doubt in your mind about your clothes, change your outfit.

-Peace Mamas

Good Hair, nappy hair, etc...

"Oh, yo baby got some good hair." People say that about my oldest all time. I reply "What's good hair?" Really what is good hair? I believe my son's hair is beautiful but my son Skye's hair is beautiful too. Skye's hair is a different texture but that's what makes it beautiful. The diversity in texture and color. A lady told me yesterday at work she used to go see a friend of the family at a nursing home every week. She would come to check up on her and give her some company. The lady is 90 years old. Well the lady at my job said she had a short little Afro when she saw her and the lady said to her "How you gonna be yellow and have short, nappy hair?" She said it really hurt. Back in the day if you were yellow you were suppose to have" good hair" and long hair. They would say you must got white or Indian in your family. Really listen to the ignorance we speak among one another and to one another. I guess my niece that is light or what people call high yellow didn't make the cut. She has very thick beautiful hair that is easy to manage. God forbid she walks around without it done. Well then she is just walkin around like a lil ol' yellow buck wheat. All of us nappy head folks should just put ourselves in "Black Face". If Christ has nappy hair then why are we ashamed. Revelations 1:14 His head and his hairs were white like wool, as white as snow; and his eyes were as a flame of fire. Now that scripture doesn't describe the white man you see displayed on a cross with stringing long hair. All black hair is good hair. Happy to be nappy, happy to be wavy, happy to be curly. All of our hair is beautiful. Our hair makes us unique and beautiful. Think about it.


-Peace Mamas

Hidden Blaque Beauty: The Queen Charlotte Sophia

Don't adjust your eyes or look twice. Yes she is a black woman. Queen Charlotte Sophia was beautiful and intelligent. She was the consort of King George the 3rd and yes he was black as well. The mother of 15 children and queen of England. Queen Charlotte contributed greatly to England. Some of her contributions are still known today. She created orphanages, maternity wings in hospitals, and much more. I just wanted to inform you Mamas on a beauty unknown. Society doesn't want you to see how great you are. We come from royalty that carried themselves with dignity.When can we call ourselves queens? The title of a queen must be found within. The title wont make sense if you don't show it and live it. Read up on Queen Charlotte Sophia. The essence of a Queen comes from the beauty you already possess.

-Peace 2 The Queens

Whatever happen 2 "Classic Beauty"?

Hey Mamas, sorry 4 the absence
but I'm back. You ladies know
I can't write unless I feel it or live it. So this is what I've been thinking, what happen to us? I wonder at times where has the black woman's style gone. We had classic beauty once upon a time. Now being lady like or being unique is non- existing. We would rather wear tight jeans all the time then to dress like a lady. Funny thing happen to me recently. I was out dressed like a lady with a hat on and walking with my sons. Two other black women go pass me with their pajamas on and scarfs around their head. They look at me like I'm wrong for being outside. I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. Classic beauty has been thrown out the window. When will we reclaim the respect and dignity our sister, mothers, grandmothers, set for us in the beginning? I remember when I was younger I was about to go out on a date. My grandmother was visiting and she saw what I had on. She told me "Leave something to the imagination." I was mad at her because I didn't understand she wanted me to cover up to show respect for my self. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. All I can say is I learned. I was born a lady I just had to realize it. We all have classic beauty. Let it shine!!!

-Peace Mamas

The Beauty of Being MAMA

Solange Knowles has gotten alot of negative views for being a young mother. I'm a young mother my self of 4 beautiful little boys. I give credit to Ms. Knowles on the fact she is honest about motherhood. I remember when I was pregnant with my youngest son my doctor asked me how do I deal with the other boys? I told her they are very helpful and try to do little things to help me out. She laughed and said most mothers say their other children get on their nerves or drive them crazy. I thought to my self they do get on my nerves, drive me crazy and so much more. Motherhood has it's ugly side when your alone with the kids and all of them make you want to hide in a closet. Even in those horrible moments you find the beauty of being a Mama. When your child lays their head in your lap. When my oldest son tells me I look pretty and I know I look a mess. One of the boys finally eats all his vegetables without me making him sit there at the table all day. I could of thought back to all the negative days with my children and tell my doctor I cant stand my children. I didn't go there because I know the positive out weighs the negative. I'm proud to be a young Mama. I find the beauty in being a mother when I can look at them from a far and watch them be little boys having fun. Sure, motherhood has it's bad moments but it don't last forever. Soon I know my little ones will be men and I hope to see them deal with their own children. Right now I'll enjoy being their Mama and them being my little boys. Enjoy motherhood try not to take it as a burden. Finding the beauty in being a Mama starts with you.

-Peace

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-Thanks Mamas, peace

Coming Soon Teen Skin Care Classes

Coming soon in October, I will be teaching a Teen Skin Care class

@ Na' Klectic Hair Gallery& Day Spa. So be ready 2 mark your calendars for a time and date. I just wanted to give all my Mamas a heads up on the class. The class will be geared towards young ladies of 10yrs old to 18yrs old. The classes are to inform young black women about their skin. I want them to go home and be able to identify blemishes, choose products 4 their skin type, and feel confident about the skin their in. The classes are fun and hands on. An Q&A discussion will follow after class. Please know that some of the cost of the class will go towards a mini teen facial. The young ladies will receive their facial by appointment with me. Mothers, aunts, grandmothers etc. are able to sit in on class 4 free.

If you have a daughter, grand-daughter, sister, niece, or friend that you think will benefit from this class please email me at blessedwitbeauty@yahoo.com. Just make the subject TEEN SKIN CARE CLASSES. I will send you a update of the time, date, cost of classes, and how 2 RSVP for this event. Please pass on information to others that may be interested.

Thank you, Hope to see many young ladies come out to my class.

-Peace Mamas and lil mamas

A True Blaque Beauty Mama Indeed...

I was thinking about her while I was washing the dishes. My sister means so much to me. Courtney Hayes is not just a MAMA but has so many hidden talents. This girl can capture life moments with just a camera phone. Her great talent in photography is God given and a beauty to see. She is a great mother to 4 beautiful children and wife to a righteous husband. I love her for so many things, but the one that stands out the most is she has always been there in my darkest moments. Always giving me advice and caring how I feel. Funny we didn't start off being so close when we were younger. Now I cant go a day without calling her. Our children are more like siblings than cousins and our family is tightly bonded together. Courtney is naturally beautiful and doesn't even know it. She is my big sister and best friend. I couldn't ask for more in a friendship and life long bond. I don't have to say I love her because she already knows. Courtney Hayes a true Blaque Beauty Mama Indeed, need I say any more.

Do you have a great friendship with your sister or sisters?

Sometimes we need to tell our sisters these things before its to late or because they just need 2 here you say it.

Think about it...

-Peace Mamas

Blaque Mamas in the Olympics: What a beauty 2 see

Where would the Olympics be without us?My sister and I were on the phone both screaming at the television. We weren't just screaming for USA but black women in general. I don't care if they are from Jamaica, Cuba, Canada, Virgin Islands, etc. these women are sisters. They have such style that even before they start running you know they mean business. I like to see the different skin tones and the beauty of their running. I'm happy to see Mamas doing their thing. If you have a daughters or sons show them these things and talk to them about the beauty of our people. We have a God given style of our own that is a beauty 2 see.

-Peace Mamas

Black Men Need Luv 2

When we think of beauty and pampering we usually think of treating ourselves or one of our fellow sisters. What about the man in your life? Black men need pampering too. I know my husband works hard all day. I'm sure you Mamas can relate. We are so used to them being strong that at times we forget to pamper them. If you live in Baltimore and you have a man in your life that deserves a little TLC. Look no further I have the solution.

For Him: A 30 minute facial dedicated to the special needs of a man. Treatments for ingrown hairs, mustache, & beard will have you turning heads. Enjoy a facial without all the fluff but still beneficial to your skin. ($45)

I provide this delightful service @ Na'Klectic Hair Gallery and Day Spa

36 E. 25Th Street

Baltimore, MD 21228

Call & make his appointment today! 410-889-0287

The Beauty of Art

Matthew Rice is a true artist. I say this because he wasn't trained to do it. His talent is God given and beautiful to see. You can go to school for basic skills but no one can show you how to open minds and hearts through art. He is a pro football player but now is focusing on his art work. Rice's art work is well thought out with meaning to captivate minds on subjects we avoid. He lets you take a small peek at his life through colorful canvas of images abstract and visual. You can purchase prints of his work. I know, I will support this brother in the future. Check out his site http://www.mateoblu.com/ . I'm sure you will enjoy. I know I did. The saying "You can't judge a book by it's cover" fits him so well. Look at the site and you'll know what I mean.

Support a brotha...

-Peace Mamas

Mama of the Week:Vanessa Morales bka Mashayachaah Labyaah

Mama of the Week is Vanessa Morales. My big sister 4 ever. I had never been friends with a Hispanic sister before so Vanessa was one of the 1st. I met her through a site we both like to look at and talk to others about the truth. Our friendship came from our first conversation about eyebrows. We both love makeup and beauty so we already had a common bond. Our strongest bond is Christ and I know her friendship was God sent. Vanessa taught me so many things I will always remember. She introduced me to Puerto Rican cuisine that my oldest son loves. Her chicken rice and beans are off the hook. Not only can she cook but writing beautiful touching poems is her specialty. She is very humble and loves hard when you become her friend. Vanessa has a kind heart that touches others. My sister and friend you are great never forget that. Go do what you have to do to meet your goals. She knows what I'm talking about. I love you very much.

P.S. Mamas tell another sister how special they are. You never know what they are going through.

-Peace Mamas

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Do you have any topics you would like me to blog on?

Let me know by emailing me at blessedwitbeauty@yahoo.com

I look forward to your suggestions on topics.

You never know I just might touch on the topic you suggested.

-Peace Mamas

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Shades of Brown

I can remember like it was yesterday Mamas, when I had this encounter with ignorance. I was dropping off my son at school. The doors were closed to the classroom so we had to wait. Another mother and her child waited at the door with us. She asked me "Is that your son?" I felt confused and said yes. She began to say that the little boy she had wasn't her son but was dropping him off for a friend. Funny, how I assumed that the little boy she had was her son without judgement of appearance. She then begin to tell me my son reminded her of her son. I get that line so many times I would be rich if I got money for it. I thought in my head really you think so. Then she went on to say people always think that her son is not her child because he is lighter and has "good hair". Not only did she comment on that but then begin to talk about her friends. I think this is where I felt sad. Her friends are very dark in complexion and had a child together. The child came out light brown. The sister said thank God the child came out light brown, because she would have no hope in the appearance department if she had her parent's skin tone. You know Mamas I had to interject in the matter because she was saying this madness around small children. I told her black is beautiful no matter how dark the skin may be. Not only did I tell her that but I told her Christ is Black. Rev1:14 His head and his hairs were white like wool, as white as snow; and his eyes were as a flame of fire; 15 And his feet like unto fine brass, as if they burned in a FURNACE; and his voice as the sound of many waters. Something burned in the furnace won't be white or light brown. Now would you say Christ is ugly if he came down in your presence?

I saw the ignorance and self hate and felt sad that she has lost out onthe beauty of black skin. We come in so many different shades of the earth. We can be as dark as the soft soil, reddish brown like clay, and light brown like the sand on the beach. Christ made us beautiful like him but we let society and other people brainwash us to think differently. I have seen so many times on t.v. a black man say " That baby ain't mine, she too light!" Two light brown people can get together and have a dark brown baby. My twin is dark brown and my other sisters and I are a lighter brown. People would ask us why is she darker than us. Mamas, we have to retrain our thinking and not pass it on to the next generation. I heard my Grandma say crazy stuff like "All that yellow wasted." I cant knock her because she came from a generation that were taught to hate their skin. It's time to come out of the slave mentality that has been embedded in our heads. We are much better than that. Christ compared us to a speckled bird , Jeremiah 12:9Mine heritage is unto me as a SPECKLED bird,the birds round about are against her; come ye, assemble all the beasts of the field, come to devour. We come in array of browns from the darkest to the lightest of the spectrum of brown. Let us remember who we are and love the skin were in.

-Peace Mamas

F is 4 Fibromas

I remember my Grandma having small dark brown bumps on her face. I sometimes wondered were they freckles or moles. I never really understood them and assumed most black people just had them.Morgan Freemon is another man I saw with these small dark brown bumps on his face. I graduated from Aesthetics School and they never really touched on black skin. So my questions were never really answered until I researched black skin my self. Our skin is so unique and different from our white counterparts. I decided to specialize in black skin as an esthetician because its an area not touched to often by the aesthetics world.

Well, if you read the title remember it. The dark brown bumps are called small fibromas. That word may sound scary Mamas but the lesions are non-cancerous and normal in black skin. Fibromas are small growths made up of fibrous tissue. They are not to be confused with moles, skin tags, or freckles. Although they can be considered in the same family. Most commonly black skin will produce fibroma. I know for me I had started to get them after having my first baby. I actually like them but some people don't like them on their face. Fibromas can be easily removed if you really feel like they take away from your appearance. I don't think Morgan Freemon would be him without them. I see it has our own special characteristic for our skin. F is for Fibromas. Now if some one asks you " Are those freckles on your face?" You can respond, " No, they are called fibromas." LOL

We learn something new everyday...

-Peace Mamas

The Beauty of Fatherhood

The Olympics is going crazy over Michael Phelps, but I had the real black super swimmer as my dad. It's funny no matter how old you get if you had a good or bad father you remember everything they did. I compare my father to Michael Phelps because my sister and I were on the phone reminiscing on how my dad would take us swimming. Every summer it never failed he would take us to the pool. We couldn't swim but my father could very well. I would watch him swim and think he was a dolphin. When he would swim under water and let us be on his back I thought he was a super hero. I don't think my father knew he had that affect on his daughters. My dad was just being a dad. It was natural to him exposing us to new things that he already knew. He never knew the impact he made on me from just the normal things he did in life. A boy or girl that has a good father will be able to see

way more potential in themselves because they know their from someone great. My dad is great in so many things but it was those moments when he was just being him self that I cherish the most. Teaching me how to ride a bike, helping him plant a garden, taking us to different parks, and much more I have received in my life as a child from my father. The beauty of fatherhood comes from the look on the child's face when he or she receives that love. Along with that look he or she is storing in her memory every moment. I love you Daddy, I see the beauty in your fatherhood.

Jealousy: Makes Black Women Have Green Eyez

I was talking to my friend yesterday about how I
perceived her when I saw her picture. I told her I thought
she was stuck up. I was told many things about her
but none were negative. When I saw how pretty she was
and how others talked about her I made my
judgement. The funny thing is people would judge me
based off appearance and think I was stuck up.
Thinking back to seeing her picture I wanted to really
examine why I thought that of her. When I met her
she was one of the most down to earth women I ever met. She even invited me in her home when I first met her and we were basically strangers to each other. My question to Mamas is what makes you jealous of another sister?

Do you believe that sister looks better? Does that sister dress better than you? One thing my mother always told me is there will always be someone that looks better. Someone may do something better than you, but does that take away from who we are as a person? I had to apologize to my friend because I was wrong for the judgement I gave her in my mind. If you continue to envy others you will never see the beauty you have within your self. Every woman is special in her own way. Not only are black women special but Hispanic women are too. Hispanic women are sisters too. Lets stop hating when a black man marries a Hispanic woman. We have green eyes in many ways towards one another. I admit, I my self have been a green eyed hater. When will it end? First find the beauty within you and all other things will fall into place. If we let jealousy continue only bitterness will begin to show its ugly head. Sorry Qee, I love you. If you did that to a sister apologize and fight to erase the green eyed hater.


-Peace & Love Mamas

Soap & Water : "That's all I use"

I had to write this blog Mamas, because I hear so many times people telling me they only use soap & water. At times some people will tell me all I use is water. Do you really think your skin is clean? We didn't just use soap and water back in the day contrary to popular belief. We tend to as a people except the history some one has told us in a text book or taught us. We used many natural products to clean our skin like herbs and olive oil to hydrate our skin. We were not a people that walked around half naked with bones in our noses living in huts. Even as slaves we were creative in creating beauty products. Some of us have gotten lazy and don't want to take the time to truly care for our skin. So some of you maybe wondering what's wrong with soap and water. Water is OK but when it comes to cleaning that's not enough. Do we jump in a steaming shower jump out and say I'm clean? Now I must go to using the soap on the face. Bar soaps are way too harsh on the skin. Soap strips your skin of all it's natural oils and make your skin produce more oil. I have seen many women walk around like Casper the ghost from the fatty acid residue that bar soap leaves. Don't blame your habits on Grandma. Find a home care regimen that is great for your skin type. I give advice on home care regimens. Email me at blessedwitbeauty@yahoo.com and I will be glad to help. I'm not just a talker I put things in action. I want to help and I get on the Mamas who do this because your better than that. We deserve so much more but allow ourselves to have less. Take care of your skin Mamas.

-Peace