We are not crabs!

Hey Mamas!

In my search to get my blog more exposure I looked for other mom blogs like mine. I came across another mommy blog that I really enjoyed. When I wrote the sister an email she wrote me back with the same kindness and added me to her blog list. I don't think she knows how much that meant to me. So many times I have experience negativity from other sisters that are in the same field as me. I have dealt with jealousy and hate in many other fields like beauty and fashion. I sometimes ask my self when did it become a competition. Why are we as black women quick to see our fellow sister as an enemy? They say we are like crabs in a barrel ...quick to pull each other down. When will we start to support one another and want to see each other go far? I remember it being rumoured that Jennifer Hudson and Beyonce were fighting on the set of Dream Girls but all of this was lies. I saw not too long ago the media saying Oprah is messing with Obama and Michelle hates Oprah. The media wants to put this madness in our hearts and show other people that the black woman hates herself. A lack of confidence is going around like an ugly virus infecting the masses. When you hate another sister and her success it's like hating your self. I wont stand on my soap box and point the finger at everyone else. When I say this to my mamas I also say this to my self. I can't say I have never been negative towards another sister. I will say I have enough sense to know it's wrong and try my best to maintain being positive. Love your sister and support her when she is doing positive things. We are paving a way for our younger sisters to be positive women in the future.

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I'm loving her blogs...

-Peace & Many Blessings

Waiting to be a Mama...

Hey Mamas,

My sister Qee is having a baby boy soon. When I think of her it brings me back to having my first son. While the baby grows bigger in your womb and the due date is nearing your wondering will you be a good mother. What will the baby look like? How painful will it be to have him? So much would go through my head. Then the time had came for me to have my baby and I was so scared but ready to have him. When it was time to push I was so tired. I told everyone around me I don't want to push no more. The one thing that made me keep pushing is when my sister Courtney said "Don't you want to see your baby?" I thought to my self this is what you been waiting for... push so you can see this baby that kept you up all night, kicked you repeatedly and now has you in the greatest pain ever in life! Holding my son in my arms was the best feeling. All my worries and doubts went away while holding him in my arms. The road ahead of me in finding my way as a mommy was a rough one but I learned many valuable lessons. Now I have 5 boys and each one of them I have learned something new about being a mommy. A true woman just has that God given instinct in her to be a great mother. All I can say to my sister Qee is you will be a good mommy. I know you will...

Peace & Many Blessings

Having his say...

Hey Mamas,

My son was coming home from school with left over sandwiches in his bag each day. Then I decided to start asking him did he want me to make his sandwich...he would reply no. I got to the point I didn't feel like there was a reason to make his lunches so I let him eat lunch at school. Last night he asked me could he bring a lunch to school. Then he kept asking me could he make his own lunch. As I watched my son make his own sandwich I realized he is growing up. I found out he doesn't like cheese on his sandwich and loves tons of pickles on it. Letting your child have some choices as they get older makes them feel like a big kid. I know Jasiyah was so happy to feel like he can do adult things on his own. I remember driving my grandmother crazy because I wanted to eat mayonnaise sandwiches. She would get mad every time I picked the meat off. As children get older they start to know exactly the things they like and don't like. A child having their say on small things makes them less indecisive in the future to make big decisions.

-Peace & Many Blessing

Mama's Book Pick of the Week: Please, Baby, Please

Hey Mamas,

I decided to keep updating the book of the week. Most of the books will be books you can read to your children. My son has to read 15minutes every night for homework so we read many books in our house. Please, Baby, Please by Spike Lee and his wife Tonya Lewis Lee is one of the boys' favorite books. The illustration by Kadir Nelson is amazing and fun to the little ones eyes. The repetitive sentences will have your children reading along with you. The story is about a child that wont go to sleep and the parents are tired and trying to make the baby go to bed. I know many parents can relate to this story. They also have another book that is absolutely adorable called Please, Puppy, Please. Check it out and keep up the reading with the little ones in your lives.

-Peace & Many Blessings

Mama's New Hot Find!

Hey Mamas,

I don't know if you saw this commercial about Bounce's Dryer Bar. If you haven't I must tell you about this amazing new creation. You stick this bar on the wall of your dryer and it works like the fabric softener sheets. The great thing is you can get the dryer bar that works for 2 months or 4 months. Also the bar melts down after uses and then you can replace it with a new bar. No more worrying did I pour the fabric softener in or did I put the sheet in. I haven't tried it yet but I will let you know if it's worth it. If you have already used it let me know if it's any good.

-Peace & Many Blessings

Wedgie Free!

Hey Mamas!

We are usually very quiet about wedgies. No one wants to tell someone their panties are riding up their butt. A wedgie can bother you so much you just might not rush to the bathroom or some where of privacy to get it out. Try sitting with a wedgie because you are too cute to get up and get it out...the feeling can be torture. The fact is it happens to the best of us. I have never heard a woman not to have one. When I saw the commercial for Hanes Wedgie Free Underwear I didn't believe it. I thought to my self yeah right how could that be possible. Last month I bought me some wedgie free underwear and I must say they are my favorite underwear to wear. Hanes stays true to their promise in their ads. I have comfort, style, and everything I want my underwear to be without the wedgies. I'm telling you mamas buy some you will love them.

-Peace & Many Blessings

Against the Odds: We are good parents

My family went to my son's kindergarten science fair last week. When we entered the cafeteria I saw so many black families. I saw both parents standing together watching their child win awards and the children telling the audience the college they wanted to attend in the future. The science fair projects looked like the parents put a lot of time and effort into their children's projects. In today's society black parents are stereotyped as being uninvolved in their child's education. It is said black families usually consists of single parent households or the grandmother is raising the kids. People will say we don't care about our children in the inner city. They will say no one attends the PTA meetings or school programs. At my son's school I saw black parents that cared about their child's education. I saw young mothers and fathers clapping and cheering for their children. Don't believe all the statics society sets for us. Against the odds of our surroundings we will still strive to be good parents.

SHHHHH...be quiet,

Hey Mamas,

When you have boys they will always try you. My oldest to youngest can give me an headache. The funny thing that I'm experiencing is the hush game. The boys will act up or one will do his dirt and I find out and nobody wants me to tell daddy. In their minds I want them to be in trouble but the truth is I want them to be better. The trouble or bad habits they keep will have them paying for it in the future. When I was younger I remember my mother saying I had puppy love and don't get caught up with certain guys I dated. I would be mad and cry looking at her like you don't know nothing. Then telling her I loved so and so but never looking at the bigger picture and only wishing she would leave me alone. Now I find my self in a similar situation. My oldest son thinks he knows best and I've never been his age before. The truth is even if I tell their dad these things and we talk to them, punish them, or show them the error of their ways... the boys will still make their own choices. Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. So I can only hope and pray the wisdom Christ has given my husband I stays within our sons' hearts and before they make the wrong choice they think real hard to do the right.

-Peace& Many Blessings

Mama's Book Pick of the Week: Nappy Hair

Hey Mama's

It's a must to read to the little ones as much as you possibly can. I remember when I was pregnant with my first son and I wanted to get books for him that he would love. I also wanted to get books for him that he was able to see images of people that related to him. Nappy Hair was one of the books I purchased that day. I read the book to him while he was in my womb and just read the book to him today. He loves this book and still asks many questions about the characters and the story. I love this book because it has a message about why God gave the little girl in the book nappy hair. If you don't have this in your child's library I suggest you get it. Nappy Hair by Carolivia Herron.

-Peace & Blessings

Going Back 2 Your Roots:Going Natural

Hey Mamas!

If you haven't seen Good Hair you must watch it. For all
the creamy crack lovers of the relaxer it might scare you back to nappy and not straight. I have many women come up to me and ask how did I go natural. When I went natural I decided being natural was the best thing for my hair to grow. I had dyed my hair every color you could imagine. I had the weave, the short hair, the braids, and so much more.It was time for a change to wear my own naturally beautiful hair and love the hair God gave me. So you may be reading this and scared to go natural. I find it amazing we are scared of something that's ours since birth. Natural hair is different but you still can achieve many styles. Ladies considering going natural here are somethings you should consider and know before going natural.

• You don't have to cut off all your hair to go natural . Natural stylists offer many transitional hair styles so you will have length after you cut off the relaxed hair.
  
• Natural hair can be very manageable with the right conditioners and combing techniques.
• If you want your hair to be straight while natural there are many ways you can do this without perming the hair with chemicals.
• Different hair styles are unlimited with natural hair. Twists, cornrows, braids, weaves, curls, locks, and so much more you can achieve with natural hair.
• Find the right Natural Hair stylist that has knowledge on natural hair care.
• Natural hair needs maintenance. You will still need to get your ends clipped and proper care received to make it grow.
• If you choose to bleach your natural hair make sure you keep it hydrated and conditioned. Natural hair bleached easily becomes brittle, dry, and will break off if not treated properly.

If your local in Baltimore here are some all natural hair salons to check out:

Na'Klectic: Natural Hair Gallery-www.naklecticnaturalhair.com 410-889-0287

Daniele Johnson (Salon Itarah)- www.itarah.org 443-447-4685

Mesha Bazemore (Ebony's Braidery) She also specializes in natural hair care for little ones

www.ebonysbraidery.webs.com 313-407-6348( she is local in baltimore!)

Happy to be Nappy, Kinky, Free of chemicals and naturally beautiful!

-Peace & Many Blessings

The Small Details of Spring!

Hey Mamas!

Spring will be here soon. Now that I'm looking forward to spring I began to think of the small fun details of spring fashion. The buds will soon be on the trees and much detail should be in your wardrobe. Glitz, sparkle, prints, texture, and color are all the little things to make your wardrobe complete. Look forward to the new freshness of Spring Fashion!

In a Spring State of Mind...Floral, Suede, Jersey, & Silk

Not Always Pretty...

In front of the mirror we stand looking at all of our imperfections. The mirror holds no lies to our belief. At times the image you see in the mirror you are well pleased with the results of a hairstyle, makeup, or skin care product you just used. What about those days when you just don't feel pretty? In your skin you are the ugliest thing standing in front of the mirror. I guess you start from the root of what is making you feel ugly. Is it the extra pounds you gained over the years, pain from verbal abuse, your hair is not done, your spirit is low, low self esteem...the list could go on. Right now in this meantime of the ugly blues you just don't feel like you. All I can say Mamas is I've been there many times before. My advice is to try not to dwell there and do things that make you feel better. Reading your favorite scriptures from the bible can help up lift your spirit . Giving your self some much needed pampering always helps the ugly blues. Buying a little something from the store can make you feel special. Take out time to take care for yourself. When being a mother you truly are the one taking care of everyone else and before you know it your the one looking a mess. Take care of your self Mamas and sometimes put yourself first.

-Peace

Mama of the Month: Daniele Johnson

Hey Mamas!

Some people may think I'm being bias on choosing Daniele but her works in life will put many to shame. A woman that lives in the now always trying to never look too deep in the past or go beyond the future. This lady is stable, consistent, and comfortable in her own skin. Daniele and her husband have started a natural hair and skin care company from the ground up with their knowledge and talent combined. While having teamwork in her home to take care of her daughter Daniele is always on the move. She is a business woman skilled in her crafts of jewelry, hair, and skin care. I watched this woman work her hardest while she is sick and standing by her word to keep promises to others. A virtuous woman indeed. She shows many other mothers you can live out your dreams with pure determination and drive towards your goals. Daniele is an example of doing it all while being a mother and wife. Striving towards perfection she makes Christ her center. Daniele Johnson you are Blaque Beauty Mama of the Month.

Get tips, tricks, & advice from Beauty Expert

Hey Mama's

You have questions and I got the answers. Do you need help with skin care problems? Cant' find the right foundation to match up with your complexion? Need some tips on how to revamp your style? Ask beauty expert Hev Green... I have all the tips, tricks, and style advice that will have you looking like the Fabulous Mama you should be.

Email your questions to blessedwitbeauty@yahoo.com

or inbox me if you are on Facebook

-Peace Mamas

Cure for "The Mundane Mommy Blues"

Hey Mamas,
If your a stay at home mom like me I know you understand the life of a routine. It mainly consists of taking care of the house, kids, cleaning, shopping, doctor appointments, and so much more. The schedule seems jammed packed with things to do but the activity of the mommy schedule is repetitive. You go in circles hoping for something exciting to be added to your day. Well ladies I have some simple solutions to spice up your mommy routine. Check them out...

• Make play dates with other friends with children.
• Have Date Nite with your husband once or twice a month.
• Create a "Mommy Circle" with mothers you know and keep it once a week.
• Start a book club with friends and meet up every month to discuss the book.
• Exercise at home or have an exercising buddy to workout with during the week.
• Join a Dance Class...choose a type of dance you would love to learn.
• Join a Cooking Class...find new ways to cook food. You can get together with friends once a month and cook together.
• Art and Crafts are always fun. You can do these activities with your kids or alone.

Have fun ...

-Peace Mamas

The Hand Cure

Hey Mamas,
It's winter and my hands are in need of some TLC.
I constantly have my hands in water. The combination of water, soap, and cold air equal rough reptile hands. I'm sure right now you might have the same problem. Follow this cure for hydrated and smooth hands.

• First scrub your hands with some type of scrub. Sugar scrubs work great on the hands.
• Then soak your hand for 5-10 minutes in warm olive oil. You can use grape seed or apricot oil as well.
• Rinse your hand of with warm water and pat them off with a towel.
• Hydrate your hands with a thick cream or butter like Shea butter, Coco butter, or my favorite Healing Butter(www.wisdomholistic.com)

Some other extra things you can do to prevent dry hands are...

Always keep a small container of cream or butter next to the sink or in your purse.

Wear gloves while cleaning around the house. My sister told me Playtex Living Gloves fit close to the hands and have a no drip cuff.

Use a sugar scrub on your hands twice a week.

Treat your self to a professional manicure.

Use hand soaps that contain moisturizers in them. Bath and Body Works has hand soaps that have hydrating oils in them that don't strip your skin of its natural oils.

Get a paraffin bath for the hands to give your self treatments or go to a nail tech that can give you the paraffin treatments.

Hope your hands will be cured today!

-Peace

The Cure Week

Hey Mamas,

When a loved one is sick or hurt in the physical or spiritual all you want to do is help them. I find my self now facing a person in my life very ill but unable to truly help. Sometimes telling and worrying someone about their condition only makes matters worse. If only a cure for diseases came in a magic bottle to take away all the pain. We all know a cure for the mind, body, and soul takes patience, long suffering, hope, and faith. Although I have no remedies for disease I have a week long of cures to simple things in life. Stay tuned ...the cures are on their way!

-Peace & Health

Tough Love makes A Strong Woman

As I pass out the plates of spaghetti the boys wasted yesterday I watched their faces look shocked. I laugh in my head remembering my grandmother making my sisters and I sit at the table to eat our food. You would have to sit there all night until you ate all the food on your plate. We used to watch the Cosby show and my eyes would get heavy but I would try my hardest to pop them back open. My grandma would say if you tired go to bed because if you fall asleep I'm gonna beat you...lol. I thought she was so mean. Not too long ago the boys were watching a movie in the living room and Siyah was falling asleep. I told him you better not fall asleep down here. I can now understand that carrying a heavy sleeping child to bed isn't great fun. My grandma didn't feel like carrying a heavy child to bed but at the time I couldn't see it. She told me not to go across the street and play with a little strange boy but I did exactly what she told me not to do. It never crossed my mind I could get hit by a car, his parents could be bad people, or the little boy could hurt me. I was the cry baby out my sisters and many punishments and tough love came my way from my grandma. Never would I think her tough love would pay off and I would be the most like her. She had common sense that alot of black women don't use too much any more. Her hard love built strong women. My Grandma White wanted us to be the best and I believe she brought the best out of us. Right now she doesn't remember to much because she has Alzheimer's but she left me with so many memories and great life lessons. My grandmother's voice, her laugh, her hands, her scent, her smile, the way she would talk to my grandfather when she thought no one knew...these memories and love transcend through my mother, Keha, Courtney, Kristin, and me. Her legacy will never die because she built it in us through tough love she gave us priceless gifts. At one time I resented my grandmother but when the smoke clears things all make sense. Juanita White...I love you and I know you know this.

Tough love isn't meant to break a spirit but to build character.

-Peace Mamas

Indirect Talk infects the Masses

Hey Mamas,

I was out last week with my sister and while we
were eating I noticed a couple at a table both texting on their phones. OK this is normal for today's society but I saw this with 3 different tables. While eating their dinner they have the phone sitting there like a little computer waiting for messages. Whatever happen to talking to each other? The third wheel now in a date is Mr. Text. I have friends that tell me I talked to you twice this week and I'm like no you didn't you texted me. Don't get me wrong texting is helpful to get the word out and let someone know something while their not in your presence. The infection of this indirect talk is causing the younger generation to not have any type of social skills. When I was dating all you did was talk on the phone all day and all night and then hook up later. Now people breakup with you through a text. Some of us at times hide behind a screen betraying a certain life. Couples say they are wonderful but cussing each other out once they get home. A girl sits at home saying she is bored and logs on to talk to her boyfriend...a man that is 50yrs old but puts up pictures of a young man he copied and pasted from another boys page. In this little crazy cyber world I do say be careful. We can say words that my seem cold or things we can never take back. We use this indirect talk and no one can see your face so we go off assuming is so and so okay...? Lets go back to the basics sometime. Go have a nice long talk with a friend, love one, child, etc. Let's talk face to face...something seems so much more personal and sweet to look a person in the eye and say So how was your day girl? I've been infected by the indirect talk bug but that doesn't stop me from having face to face gatherings and talking on the phone to hear another's voice say hello.
Try it... you just might like it.

-Peace Mamas

Mama's Tip:Trick Your Little Ones into Drinking Water

Lets face it little kids don't like to drink water. It doesn't matter how healthy you brought them up from a baby. Once they get a taste of juice they hate to go back to the bland taste of water. I currently found out that Deer Park has water called Aqua Pods. My sons love these little waters. I think the shape of them and the size make them very appealing to small people. If you don't believe it just try it for a week. I believe it comes in a pack of eight. Your children will become "Super Drinking Aqua Kids" within the blink of an eye. You can find them in your local stores every where Deer Park is available. Here are some other ways to get the little ones drinking more water...

• I sometimes cut up lemons in their water. The boys like to watch the fruit float around the bottle.
• Tinted water in a cool color will please the kiddies. Add a drop of food dye in the water and shake.
• Let them only have juice at night for dinner and the rest of the day drink water. I tried it but the boys went crazy ...lol
• They now have these individual flavoring packets to put in water. Try sprinkling a few drops in the water but not the entire packet.

Hope this helps your Aqua Babies to be healthy and happy!

-Peace Mamas

Tragedy 2 Triumph: Melody Gardot

Good Morning Mamas!

Its "Good Music Tuesday" but I must tell you first the story behind this sultry songstress Melody Gardot. In a tragic accident Melody was riding her bike and was hit by a SUV. She suffered great injuries to her spine, bones were shattered in other parts of her body, and neurological damage to her brain. She had to learn how to walk, talk, and remember again. The doctors felt there was no help for her and she wouldn't recover completely from all the damages. Melody went back to her first love music and started playing the piano as part of music therapy. Doctors discovered the music therapy helped Melody to heal. She still deals everyday with great pain at times. When performing and everyday life Melody wears tinted glasses to block out light that causes pain. She is also sensitive to noise that can cause painful headaches. In all this tribulation Melody found her voice and is making the charts with a smooth jazzy voice that will have you relaxing in no time. My first time I ever heard her music was last Sunday. I have already became a fan of this songbird's music. Check out her new album called "My One and Only Thrill" www.myspace.com/melody. At times we think that the worse thing in our lives could never be a blessing. You never know how your life is meant to go so we pray and hope for good even in tribulation.

-Peace Mamas

Beauty Trend: Back2 Basics...Lets go Natural

Hey Natural Mamas!

The growing trend is to go natural. Many black women are going back to their natural beauty of hair. Many beauty lines are creating pure products for the natural lady in you. We cant forget skin care. The new beauty trend is to go back to the basics. Products free from chemicals can be seen in your local drug and beauty supply stores. As an esthetician that specializes in black skincare I suggest natural products to my clients. Ingredients that occur in nature produce great results of change in the skin My favorite current natural skincare line right now is Wisdom Holistic Skin and Hair. The products are very effective and energizing to the skin. Wisdom Holistic Hottest Products to try are:

Healing Butter: This butter truly heals the skin. The Healing Butter you can use from head to toe. The sweet smell of lemons will have you in love with this creamy butter. I scrape the jar every time I get this product because its that great.

Castile Liquid Cleansers: These gel like cleansers will have you skin squeaky clean and fresh. The cleanser come in a variety of scents and uses such as Country Lavender, Peppermint Magic,Lemongrass Zen, Tea Tree, and my favorite that leaves your skin tingling Sweet Orange.

Go natural today!... check out www.WisdomHolistic.com

Dress Like a True Romantic

Hey Mamas!

Love is in the air and you want to show it. My little sister asked me last week what would I call the style of dress I had on. I told her "Romantic"and my husband laughed. The Romantic or feminine chic is truly a style of dress. If you want to show your tender and delicate side I have some very easy ways to dress like the True Romantic. Keep in mind this style is nice for dates, proms, weddings, and when you just want to be a doll.

• Pearls are a must. It doesn't matter what color you wear just have some around the neck,in the ears, or on the wrist.
• Pastel colors are another key principle to the romantic look. You can go with some winter pastel colors that have darker undertones to them.
• Ruffles on the collar of a shirt , dress or sweater are very sweet in achieving this style.
• Add a charm bracelet or necklace to create a dainty playfulness to the outfit
• A pastel cardigan paired with a silky camisole will complete any romantic creation.
• Suede boots,pumps, or flats finish off this soft and delicate look.

Ladies have fun showing a little tenderness...lol

Romance your style today!

-Peace Mamas

Looking 4 My Blaque Beauty Mama Readers

Hey Mamas!

I have a new app on my page for followers of my blog. If you reading this from an email or a forwarded email go to my page and become a follower. The follower app is on the left side of the blog. I would love to know who likes my blog! You never know I just might be giving out free services of skincare, beauty, or wardrobe. Become a follower today...

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-Peace Mamas

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Rules 4 finding The Perfect Dress!

Hey Mamas!
I want to share some wonderful advice with you... Finding the right dress will never be a problem again. The rules I'm about to share with you can apply for any dress occasion. You ask any woman what is the hardest thing to do while shopping and their answer will probably be finding the perfect dress. The problem is we go to the mall, online, or to a thrift store and believe something will just pop out at us. I believe sometimes a dress will catch your attention but what if its too expensive or they don't have your size? We become devastated because the perfect dress we saw on display isn't available. The truth of the matter is most stores put an I catching dress on display and usually its a size 2. Then other women have ran into the store and bought up all the sizes of your fabulous dress. So your thinking than I wont ever find the perfect dress. No, no, no I tell you as I wag my finger. Your perfect dress is waiting for you. All you have to do is arm your self with these rules for finding the perfect dress!...

Perfect Dress Rules

1. Get your body measured! We always go out looking for clothes saying to ourselves I think I wear a size 7 or 8.
2. What do believe are the best & worst features on your body? You must know this so you can decide what areas you want to cover and expose. Do you want your back out or to cover your arms because you think they appear fat?
3. Decide on the length of your dress. Think of the occasion and season this dress is for? Do you want a long or short dress? If you already have in mind I want to wear a short dress to prom than that eliminates you aimlessly searching through long dresses
4. Figure out what type of sleeves,straps, etc you want on your dress.You might not want sleeves at all
5. Decide on 2-3 colors you would like to wear. Now the perfect dress is getting easier as we go!
6. Decide on the neckline of your dress...will it be a plunging V or high Victorian collar.
7. Choose what style you want your dress to be. Vintage, Romantic, Trendy, Elegant, Sultry...the list can go on forever so choose!
8. Decide on where to look for your dress... Do you want to go to a trendy retail store, shop online, go to a department store, look in a thrift store, or look in a vintage boutique?
9. Look online or in magazines for what you like and bring the pictures with you to the store.

I hope this helps you on your adventure for finding the perfect dress.

It may sound like a lot to consider but its better than giving up and settling for a dress you don't like.

OR

You can contact me

Heather Hayes

Professional Wardrobe Stylist "For Real People"

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I can help you find that "Perfect Dress"!