Indirect Talk infects the Masses

Hey Mamas,

I was out last week with my sister and while we
were eating I noticed a couple at a table both texting on their phones. OK this is normal for today's society but I saw this with 3 different tables. While eating their dinner they have the phone sitting there like a little computer waiting for messages. Whatever happen to talking to each other? The third wheel now in a date is Mr. Text. I have friends that tell me I talked to you twice this week and I'm like no you didn't you texted me. Don't get me wrong texting is helpful to get the word out and let someone know something while their not in your presence. The infection of this indirect talk is causing the younger generation to not have any type of social skills. When I was dating all you did was talk on the phone all day and all night and then hook up later. Now people breakup with you through a text. Some of us at times hide behind a screen betraying a certain life. Couples say they are wonderful but cussing each other out once they get home. A girl sits at home saying she is bored and logs on to talk to her boyfriend...a man that is 50yrs old but puts up pictures of a young man he copied and pasted from another boys page. In this little crazy cyber world I do say be careful. We can say words that my seem cold or things we can never take back. We use this indirect talk and no one can see your face so we go off assuming is so and so okay...? Lets go back to the basics sometime. Go have a nice long talk with a friend, love one, child, etc. Let's talk face to face...something seems so much more personal and sweet to look a person in the eye and say So how was your day girl? I've been infected by the indirect talk bug but that doesn't stop me from having face to face gatherings and talking on the phone to hear another's voice say hello.
Try it... you just might like it.

-Peace Mamas

Mama's Tip:Trick Your Little Ones into Drinking Water

Lets face it little kids don't like to drink water. It doesn't matter how healthy you brought them up from a baby. Once they get a taste of juice they hate to go back to the bland taste of water. I currently found out that Deer Park has water called Aqua Pods. My sons love these little waters. I think the shape of them and the size make them very appealing to small people. If you don't believe it just try it for a week. I believe it comes in a pack of eight. Your children will become "Super Drinking Aqua Kids" within the blink of an eye. You can find them in your local stores every where Deer Park is available. Here are some other ways to get the little ones drinking more water...

• I sometimes cut up lemons in their water. The boys like to watch the fruit float around the bottle.
• Tinted water in a cool color will please the kiddies. Add a drop of food dye in the water and shake.
• Let them only have juice at night for dinner and the rest of the day drink water. I tried it but the boys went crazy ...lol
• They now have these individual flavoring packets to put in water. Try sprinkling a few drops in the water but not the entire packet.

Hope this helps your Aqua Babies to be healthy and happy!

-Peace Mamas

Tragedy 2 Triumph: Melody Gardot

Good Morning Mamas!

Its "Good Music Tuesday" but I must tell you first the story behind this sultry songstress Melody Gardot. In a tragic accident Melody was riding her bike and was hit by a SUV. She suffered great injuries to her spine, bones were shattered in other parts of her body, and neurological damage to her brain. She had to learn how to walk, talk, and remember again. The doctors felt there was no help for her and she wouldn't recover completely from all the damages. Melody went back to her first love music and started playing the piano as part of music therapy. Doctors discovered the music therapy helped Melody to heal. She still deals everyday with great pain at times. When performing and everyday life Melody wears tinted glasses to block out light that causes pain. She is also sensitive to noise that can cause painful headaches. In all this tribulation Melody found her voice and is making the charts with a smooth jazzy voice that will have you relaxing in no time. My first time I ever heard her music was last Sunday. I have already became a fan of this songbird's music. Check out her new album called "My One and Only Thrill" www.myspace.com/melody. At times we think that the worse thing in our lives could never be a blessing. You never know how your life is meant to go so we pray and hope for good even in tribulation.

-Peace Mamas

Beauty Trend: Back2 Basics...Lets go Natural

Hey Natural Mamas!

The growing trend is to go natural. Many black women are going back to their natural beauty of hair. Many beauty lines are creating pure products for the natural lady in you. We cant forget skin care. The new beauty trend is to go back to the basics. Products free from chemicals can be seen in your local drug and beauty supply stores. As an esthetician that specializes in black skincare I suggest natural products to my clients. Ingredients that occur in nature produce great results of change in the skin My favorite current natural skincare line right now is Wisdom Holistic Skin and Hair. The products are very effective and energizing to the skin. Wisdom Holistic Hottest Products to try are:

Healing Butter: This butter truly heals the skin. The Healing Butter you can use from head to toe. The sweet smell of lemons will have you in love with this creamy butter. I scrape the jar every time I get this product because its that great.

Castile Liquid Cleansers: These gel like cleansers will have you skin squeaky clean and fresh. The cleanser come in a variety of scents and uses such as Country Lavender, Peppermint Magic,Lemongrass Zen, Tea Tree, and my favorite that leaves your skin tingling Sweet Orange.

Go natural today!... check out www.WisdomHolistic.com

Dress Like a True Romantic

Hey Mamas!

Love is in the air and you want to show it. My little sister asked me last week what would I call the style of dress I had on. I told her "Romantic"and my husband laughed. The Romantic or feminine chic is truly a style of dress. If you want to show your tender and delicate side I have some very easy ways to dress like the True Romantic. Keep in mind this style is nice for dates, proms, weddings, and when you just want to be a doll.

• Pearls are a must. It doesn't matter what color you wear just have some around the neck,in the ears, or on the wrist.
• Pastel colors are another key principle to the romantic look. You can go with some winter pastel colors that have darker undertones to them.
• Ruffles on the collar of a shirt , dress or sweater are very sweet in achieving this style.
• Add a charm bracelet or necklace to create a dainty playfulness to the outfit
• A pastel cardigan paired with a silky camisole will complete any romantic creation.
• Suede boots,pumps, or flats finish off this soft and delicate look.

Ladies have fun showing a little tenderness...lol

Romance your style today!

-Peace Mamas

Looking 4 My Blaque Beauty Mama Readers

Hey Mamas!

I have a new app on my page for followers of my blog. If you reading this from an email or a forwarded email go to my page and become a follower. The follower app is on the left side of the blog. I would love to know who likes my blog! You never know I just might be giving out free services of skincare, beauty, or wardrobe. Become a follower today...

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-Peace Mamas

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Rules 4 finding The Perfect Dress!

Hey Mamas!
I want to share some wonderful advice with you... Finding the right dress will never be a problem again. The rules I'm about to share with you can apply for any dress occasion. You ask any woman what is the hardest thing to do while shopping and their answer will probably be finding the perfect dress. The problem is we go to the mall, online, or to a thrift store and believe something will just pop out at us. I believe sometimes a dress will catch your attention but what if its too expensive or they don't have your size? We become devastated because the perfect dress we saw on display isn't available. The truth of the matter is most stores put an I catching dress on display and usually its a size 2. Then other women have ran into the store and bought up all the sizes of your fabulous dress. So your thinking than I wont ever find the perfect dress. No, no, no I tell you as I wag my finger. Your perfect dress is waiting for you. All you have to do is arm your self with these rules for finding the perfect dress!...

Perfect Dress Rules

1. Get your body measured! We always go out looking for clothes saying to ourselves I think I wear a size 7 or 8.
2. What do believe are the best & worst features on your body? You must know this so you can decide what areas you want to cover and expose. Do you want your back out or to cover your arms because you think they appear fat?
3. Decide on the length of your dress. Think of the occasion and season this dress is for? Do you want a long or short dress? If you already have in mind I want to wear a short dress to prom than that eliminates you aimlessly searching through long dresses
4. Figure out what type of sleeves,straps, etc you want on your dress.You might not want sleeves at all
5. Decide on 2-3 colors you would like to wear. Now the perfect dress is getting easier as we go!
6. Decide on the neckline of your dress...will it be a plunging V or high Victorian collar.
7. Choose what style you want your dress to be. Vintage, Romantic, Trendy, Elegant, Sultry...the list can go on forever so choose!
8. Decide on where to look for your dress... Do you want to go to a trendy retail store, shop online, go to a department store, look in a thrift store, or look in a vintage boutique?
9. Look online or in magazines for what you like and bring the pictures with you to the store.

I hope this helps you on your adventure for finding the perfect dress.

It may sound like a lot to consider but its better than giving up and settling for a dress you don't like.

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I'm Celebrating!!!!

Hey Mamas!!!!!!!!!!

I have a more than 100 blog posts and I'm very happy about all that. Thank you all for supporting my blog. I know that so many of you have forwarded my blog on to others and people have read my blogs on Facebook. I'm also happy to say I'm almost finished my book and Lord's will it will be coming out this year. Please keep supporting my blog and look out for my book. Forgive me for my absence on my blog. I'm an emotional writer and I have to feel things to write. I think this might be the season to write so stayed tuned til the next episode...lol

-Luv, peace, & blessings mamas

In The Meantime

On my long hiatus from my blog I have been through life changes that only I can understand. When tribulation hits home and much chaos evolves in your life I look around at all that I do have to be thankful for. How many of us can be thankful for the bad things that happen in our lives? When hell hits and you have lost a job, a love one, your home or a car can you stand in your tribulation and smile. In all situations there is something to learn whether they be good or bad. Don't get me wrong I have my days when a dark cloud comes I'm not always smiling, but if I can get through it I know I will be stronger. The cliche saying that we always hear is "what doesn't kill you only will make you stronger". I watch the tribulation in Haiti and wonder how would I feel if that was me or my family. How would I feel if I was in a collasped building breathing out of an air pocket hoping and praying the Lord would send someone to help me. Looking at others go through affliction makes my pain less difficult to go through. In the meantime of my hardships I pray for the good but I wont stay in a place of pity for my self nor my situation. Someone out there is going through much more hell than me and surviving to breathe is their blessing.

-Peace Mamas....be thankful

The Best Shave Ever!!!

This is for the men folk…lol but if you are a mama reading this pass it on to the men in your life. Say good bye to ingrown hairs and hello baby face! Here are some quick tips to a have clean & clear skin. Follow these steps and you will achieve a smooth shave every time!

· Always cleanse your skin with a liquid cleanser. Try cleansers that foam up. The bubbles in the foam stimulate the hair follicles in the skin.
· A must have is a facial brush. It can be manual or one you place batteries in. Before shaving brush with cleanser on the face in backward circles. It's important to brush before you shave because it lifts up the hair follicle away from the skin. So with the hair away from the skin it prevents ingrown hairs
· What ever tool you use make sure it’s sanitized and clean
· After cleansing the skin make sure to wash your skin with hot water or place a hot towel over the face. Heat opens pores and loosens up the hair shaft.
· After shaving try another hot towel!!!!
· Last but not least a must have…must use Tend Skin! I stand by it’s the best. Pat this product on after every shave or haircut. Tend Skin prevents ingrown hairs.
· You can get Tend Skin at Sephora or do a search on Google.

To be continued... with The Best of the Best skin care products 4 men!!!

-Happy Shaving Baby Face

-Peace

Gold, Leather,& Studs...Oh my!

Fall, Fall, Fall,....

Hey Mamas!

It's getting cold out there and you know what that means...pull out the fall clothes. Start sorting through your clothes for the must go and the must have. Autumn trends are looking hot this season. Check out this list of trends you might want to add to your wardrobe!

• Gold is the color for the fall. Whether it be a shoes or hand bag have fun including this metallic in your wardrobe.
• Studded purses will be a hit this fall. You will find studs on just about any size or style of purse.
• Clutches are making a big come back! Look for chocolate suede, studded silver, or sparkling gold clutches to complete your look for girls night out.
• Suede shoes of any kind or color has always been a perfect accessory for a fall wardrobe.
• Leather blouses and skirts will be a hot trend to try.
• Sweater dresses in bright bold or baby soft colors will keep you cozy and cute. Complete this look with a pair of suede knee boots and leggings.

Quick tip Mamas: When sorting through your clothes make three piles *Keepers, *Throw away, and *Give away. Also make a list of Staple clothes you need to update like basic t-shirts, black pants and skirts, a nice neutral colored blazer, etc. If you will be shopping soon for the beautiful Autumn weather make sure to do an inventory of your closet. Find clothes that will match up with other items that already exist in your wardrobe. I can never stress enough get your body measured. Proper fitted undergarments make any look great.

Have fun!

-Peace

No More Muffin Tops!

Hey mamas!

Have you ever heard the saying crack kills! I remember not too long ago going to my son's school orientation. I saw so much butt crack and muffin tops I wanted to scream. Whatever happen to women wearing jeans that fit them properly? So we think I got the jeans up my thighs and over my butt they must fit. Shame on you muffin top mamas...stop right now. Fall is around the corner and now is the opportunity to redeem yourself from the horrible dress habits you display. Check out these tips on how to find the perfect jeans!

• Big booty mamas stay away from jeans with big bulky pockets on the butt area. Also try dark demin instead of lighter washes
• Small booty mamas get jeans with the pockets and detail on the jeans
• If you have big thighs don't get those jeans that look like they have stretch marks on the thigh area.
• Short mamas get your jeans tailored so the jeans wont drag on the floor.
• If your tall it's good to know your inseam and go from there. If you sit down with the jeans make sure they still come down to the ankle.
• Also know that demin relaxes after being worn.
• Find out your lower body measurements before you go shopping.
• Your jeans should fit but not be too tight that your fighting you way into them.
• Older women stick with dark demin and not the light stone wash mom jeans ,lol. Dark demin you can wear to work and then go casual.
• Whether it be a skinny jeans,boot cut, high waisted,...figure out what is best for your body type.

Okay mamas say goodbye to muffin tops and hello to classy style. Be a lady this Fall!

-Peace

Goodbye Lady Lily

Hey Mamas...

It's been awhile but now is the season for me to write. My mother called me and told me my Aunt Bibi is in a hospice. She always told me before she was very ill to call her. I would say in the back of my head I'll call her after I get done with this or that. Now I want to talk to her and she isn't up to talking because death weighs the spirit down. Her spirit now ready to leave and the flesh holding on to something that wants to be free.

My Aunt was so full of life and care free. My favorite memory of Aunt Bibi was her teaching me how to crotche. Her long delicate fingers would spin the yarn with the needle. She made hats for men and women, she was a painter, and she was special to me. So how do you say goodbye to someone ready to leave?

I made a picture for her with this poem:

In a field of lilies

I find peace.

Christ talks to me in the whispers of the wind...calling me home.

I see the dove fly towards the sunset.

He calls me home.

I remember my youth and kiss the sky.

Close my eyes and he takes me home.

Angels sing holy praises and my heart can rest ...saying bye to the flesh.

I am home.

Tell someone goodbye before its too late.

-Peace

Red is sexy and so are you

A red dress can be short, long, slit up the side or off the shoulder and it will still be sexy. People have their different views on the color red. I have heard it brings out emotions that get the blood pumping. Emotions like passion and anger to name a few. I also heard from a professional match maker on television red is the color for women to wear on their first date. Your date will never forget the color if you end up together and the color red is suppose to excite. The top color that men love but don't see women wear often is the color red. I asked my husband how did he feel about the color red would it turn his head? He told me ,"Well you don't see a black woman in the hood to often strutting around in a red dress." So I say to my Mamas add a little red dress to your wardrobe forget the little black dress. Red is the classic sexy dress. Please my friends don't get sexy twisted with slutty. If your too scared to wear the red dress ease your self into the sexy with these classic tricks:

• Red nails- Women have did this for decades
• Red lips- Please do it right and do not line them with black eyeliner and choose the right shade.
• Red shoes-This is another color that goes perfect with neutral clothes
• Red bra and panties- Key way to feel sexy is to wear matching sets and red just pushes it over the top.

Have fun Mamas!

-Peace

Thinking of my Parents

When I was a little girl I asked my parents for a doll I saw on television. All I knew is that I had to have it. My parents told me no and I cried for hours. I continued to ask them and every time they told me no I cried my self to sleep. I never considered their situation. I was a child and only knew that the desires of my heart I should receive. Damn, my parents situation I wanted that doll!

Talking to my sister on the phone she heard my oldest fussing over something he wanted. Funny how we receive pay back from our own children. As a child we don't think maybe my parents have to pay bills or the car needs to be fixed. I saw my parents as being mean for not getting me the things I wanted. Now I understand what is means to be a parent. Sometimes you have to be the bad guy. You have to make big choices for the family and some of them hurt.

I don't celebrate mother or father's day but I do know and show how much I love my parents. My father and mother didn't always have much but they gave what they could. I still see them giving and doing all that they can for their grandchildren. Life lessons are always present and through my children I am always learning. I thank God for the lessons I have learned and will continue to experience.

-Peace Mamas

Bring "Pink" into your office

Summer is here and bright colors are a must in the wardrobe. Don't be caught in the office with the basic neutrals. Bring a little fun into your work wardrobe by adding pink.

The best way to add pink can be with your shoes. Pink flats or heels combined with your outfit will spark some conversations in the office.

Pair your pink shoes up with

• a black dress
• white button up shirt with black pants
• a black blouse and gray skirt

Any favorite neutral combination you always play it safe with wearing add pink shoes.

Options are endless with pink but I'll let you decide. To my mamas that don't work in the office but are scared to add color to their wardrobe try wearing some pink shoes, a pink hand bag, bracelet, or glasses. Barbie has fun with pink and we can too!

-Peace Mamas

Change and Help

Hey mamas, its been three months and I have many things to talk about. Bad and good changes have occurred in my life but all are lessons to make me stronger. In a time of change I think of a butterfly's transformation. A creature starting off very ugly and then turning into something beautiful. I think we all want to be beautiful in the end result.

In the past few months I have learned its okay to ask for help. Having my fifth son was a major change in my life. At first I didn't want to ask for help. I think most of us want to be super woman because we are so used to doing many things on our own. My friends and family helped me out a great deal after my son was born. Sometimes when things change in your life you will need help. Asking for help doesn't mean your needy or incapable. There will be times in your life where you have to set pride to the side and realize help is needed. Help someone in need if their going through changes in their life. If your the one that needs help don't be afraid to ask.

-Peace Mamas

Letting Go

At times we don't know when to let go. We hold on so tight as if that thing or person is the only love we have. Right now I ponder on some things wondering if I should keep them or leave them alone. Letting go can be a hard decision depending on who it is and why we do it. Sometimes we let go of things and people that were worth fighting for and keep the bad that was not. Then sometimes we let the other person let us go and don't fight to stay. How do we know when it's the right time to let go? At times I think it's a gut feeling that won't leave you alone but you ignore the feeling. There are a million love songs telling you to give it up turn it lose but you hold on to them anyway. I guess you don't let go until that person or thing hurts you so much that you feel their not necessary to keep.

-Peace Mamas

Facebook: A Sea of Many Faces I Know & Knew

I just recently started using Facebook. At times I was hesitant to use it because I knew it would remind me of my past. Looking at my present I feel so far from where I began. Finding old friends bring you back to memories, silly moments, and old loves lost. In the sea of many faces on this online social gathering I see old classmates in the present all grown up, older relatives that seemed so much older than me now feel the same age, cousins younger than me in college experiencing life, my favorite cousins moving up in the world, and me feeling okay with my past present and future. Reconnecting with family and friends but never forgetting where I'm trying to go.

-Peace Mamas (Reconnect)

Get your facts straight!!!

So many myths have been around for years about makeup and how it affects yours skin. I only see it right to set the record straight. My conversations with clients, friends, and just in general bring me to the conclusion that we are ignorant to this topic.

• Myth number 1: Makeup makes your skin breakout.

A foundation just might cause an allergic reaction but most often that's not the case. Really the only way makeup can break you out is if you go to sleep with it on. Proper cleansing of the skin leaves makeup no room to break out your skin. Also another factor of your skin breaking out can simply be from not cleaning your brushes or over using those little sponges that come with your foundation or eyeshadow.

• Myth number 2: Makeup will break down your skin and make you look older in the future.

Makeup actually protects your skin from all the bad elements in the environment. Most powder foundations and eye shadows have SPF in them. You will get older but properly taking care of your skin will help the aging process look wonderful. Let's face it your gonna have wrinkles one day but if your a Black Mama you have a lot of time. So don't worry yet about the crows feet knocking at your door come 40. Don't blame your old face on the makeup. Blame your broken down face on being too lazy to take care of your skin, not keeping a proper diet, smoking and drinking too often, or your parents passed down bad genes

Myth number 3: Makeup makes people look pretty that are ugly. So ugly people depend on makeup, I have natural beauty.

Well, I say to this one... It doesn't matter how much makeup you wear if your ugly your ugly.

Some women that wear makeup that look pretty are ugly just by their personality. I will say that makeup enhances the beautiful features that already exist. A lady asked me was I wearing MAC. I said no the Queen collection but it doesn't matter what foundation you wear if you have healthy beautiful skin. In order for makeup to do its best beauty already has to exist.

So there you have it Mamas, Makeup is not the enemy of your skin. Most often you are the problem. Lets try first achieving healthy skin and then apply makeup.

_Peace Mamas...Don't get it twisted your listening 2 a pro!!!

Fashion Designer : Anna Sui

Sorry about previous blog the new baby is making my mind slip. Spring is in the air and I recently saw a interview on Anna Sui. I instantly fell in love with her designs and style. She combines bold colors with a hippie like bohemian prints. I see her clothes and can actually see women on the street wear them. I know if I cant afford her clothes, I will copy her designs in my own way. Other colors to try this spring in which Anna Sui displayed in her spring fashion show are Current & Coral. Both colors can be matched up with gold accessories. Bold and fun is the way to go this spring. So have fun showing off beautiful colors and earthy patterns.

-Peace Mamas

The Hot Color this Season

My girl Qee said it was hot but I was hard headed and said "any who". Now I'm seeing this Cobalt Blue is on every star and in every store. I do love the bold color for the spring and summer. I don't think of this beautiful color as a trend but a wonderful color to add some life into you wardrobe. Go shopping and update those tired spring and summer clothes with Cobalt blue.

You cant go wrong with adding a colorful dress or bold accessories.

-Peace Mamas...Stay fabulous!!!

Spring cleaning

Hey Mamas!

Spring is approaching soon and we know what that means... time to clean out the old & bring in the new. It's time to update your facial products. your skin most times changes with the seasons. Many times our skin will get immune to the products we use over and over again. When switching your products start one product at a time. First try changing your cleanser then toner and so on. If some of your three basic regimen products still work nicely on your skin keep them but try a new mask or facial scrub. It's time to renew our skin and look fun and fresh for the beautiful season Spring!!!!

-Peace Mamas

The grudge

I must say it's so hard to find a picture expressing the emotion or action of having a grudge. In search of a picture I came to understanding most times a grudge can't be seen. When a person has a grudge towards you it's not usually expressed physically. Occasionally you can pick up on the vibe of grudge if your sensitive enough to how others treat you. What is a grudge? How does a grudge come about?

Looking up the definition I came to see a grudge embodies many negative feeling such as bitterness, jealousy, envy, and malice. It's an extreme resentment towards another because of so called wrong doing. Grudges usually come about because you are offended by someone and never confront the person about your hurt.

I often see my oldest son Jasiyah and his cousin Isaiah get into fights or arguments. Right away when they are hurt by one another its expressed . One will scream,"You hurt me ,I'm not your friend no more". It's funny how children can be so honest and open about their feelings without harboring them inside. It is said if someone offends you to come to them alone and tell them their offence.

Most often we confide in others our hurt instead of letting that person who has offended know their fault. Sometimes we spread rumours without really examining the entire situation. If the time is taken to talk to that person you might just find out that person is truly sorry or find out somethings about yourself. I my self have carried grudges but its a heavy bag to carry. I think it's time we but down the heavy bags and open them so we can get rid of all that's weighing us down. Sometimes we say we are okay or cool with whomever has created the the offence, but how can you be alright if it never was talked about? Knowing that a grudge contains so much negativity, why would we want to carry so much hate? Think about it.

-Peace Mamas ... Put down the heavy bags

Life & Death

Hey Mamas, its been awhile. We all know life can get you tangled up and you have no time for certain things you love to do. I'm back and have a lot to talk about. I have to start my return back on a sad note. My husband just lost his father not too long ago. I just recently heard my cousin just lost her dog. Whether it be a person or animal if it's someone dear to your heart the pain will overcome you. I also see when it's a parent or sibling it affects you more than others. It is said in life we will lose but we will gain. No one can replace the one you lost but through your mourning never forget who you still have in your life. As life ends for some I await a life to come and experience the world. Life and death its a circle that keeps going. My heart goes out to all that have lost someone close to them. When death comes that person must go where they have to go and you must keep living and remember them. Their spirit may be gone and the flesh buried but your memories of them can never fade.

-Peace Mamas

Mommy's Temper Tantrum

Often times I find my self asking others,how do you deal with the stress of being a mother? I get different answers that will sometimes help me but really hasn't stopped me from having a tantrum or two. Yes, Mamas have temper tantrums too. If you say you don't then you might not know how to identify it. A child's tantrum comes from not getting their way most often. A mother's tantrum comes from bottled up frustration, stress, or reoccurring problems. So how do you calm down a mommy tantrum? Here are a few of my tips that may or may not work. Sometimes you have to scream or stomp for a couple minutes.

• Remove yourself from everyone and breathe
• Take some time out to read the bible. (I usually read scriptures about anger)
• Keep a journal and write out how you feel and things you go through as a way to vent out any emotions you might have.
• Take time to pray about your situation or problem.
• Get a punching bag and beat the crap out of it. LOL
• Go running for awhile, it sometimes clears the mind.

If all else fails do your "Rumpelstiltskin Dance" until you get it out, lol. I'm just playing think about what is really making you mad and go from there. Try to fight to get over the anger and find the source of it.

-Peace Mamas

Friend or Foe

When we grow up we learn about friendship and enemies. The process of choosing between the two can be hard for some and very easy for others. At times we tend to call anyone a friend because they are nice to us or talk to us frequently. What is friendship based off of? Is it the girls you grew up with for years? Is it the co worker at your job? Is it your sister? Is it the woman you met a few days ago? Is it the person that sent you a friendship email? It is said you must try a friend to find out if they are worthy or not to be called one. As women I find a lot of black women will say I don't deal with women because they are too catty. So some women will find so called friendship among men. Other women only have a few they are close too. While others run in cliches of women. Experiences happen to make you choose any of the choices above. I wonder at times could friends you believe you tested be enemies? I have seen many times before lies, secrets, and most of all jealousy circle around friends destroying relationships. Friends can be the medicine of life but be careful who is feeding you poison. Conflict will occur in relationships but honesty, trust, and loyalty must be the foundation in order to resolve any problem. In closing of this blog , I examine my self to say have I been a good friend? Think about it, I know I will.


-Peace Mamas

Beauty Health Tip

Hey Mamas, want to know a way to have a good start that will last through the day?

A simple thing you can do is stretch in the morning. Before you do anything stretch out your muscles. You will feel so much better. We often unconsciously stretch our limbs while sitting at work or in many other places that have you stagnated in one position. You don't have to exercise to stretch or be a certain age.

Many benefits come from stretching such as

• More energy throughout the day
• Helps the circulation of blood
• Enhances your coordination
• Increases your range of motion
• Reduces muscle tension.

Remember to use stretching and your daily wake up routine and get the little ones involved. Your body will thank you.

-Peace Mamas

Lies from the start bring dirty shame

I woke up a little early than usual because I had left on the T.V. Surprising to my eyes the Jerry Springer show was on. It's not a habit for me to watch this show but something made me not change the channel. I saw a black woman sitting on the stage with her legs crossed waiting for the show to begin. Taking a closer look I knew she was a man. A Mama knows her own kind,lol. Jerry starts asking her questions about her being a man and when did she become a so called woman. Well this man has been pretending to be a woman since he was a child. He had begun his sex change but hadn't got rid of "bob". The man had got in a relationship pretending to be a woman. When he revealed he was a woman the man beat the living crap out of him. So now he must come tell another man he has lied about the truth of his identity but of course on national television. So they bring out his boyfriend that comes out and kisses him on the lips. He tells his boyfriend (Shawn )he is a man. Now the shock on this man's face words can't express. I wont ever forget his face. We all know what happen after that, he wanted to whip the she man's ass!!! I'm sorry there is no other way to say it. She man tells him I didn't mean to hurt you and all the cliche madness a she man would say in that type of situation.

The relationship started off with lies and illusions. Often we begin relationships like this and wonder why it comes to a shameful ending. She man knew he was a man and had his boyfriend moving in knowing the lie he held within. At times we lie so much we begin to believe our lies are true. If you start off with false images of your self instead of showing the real you only a negative outcome will manifest. On the other hand the boyfriend should had really examined the person he was getting involved with. Shawn jumping in head first with the love of she man's beauty, moved in with her after only 4 months. Mr. Shawn never paid close attention to his mate to know she was a man. The crazy thing is he slept in the bed with she man. Sometimes in a relationship the evidence of your mate being a liar is right in front of you, but you convince your self all is well. Both sides are to blame for the shame that comes from lies. The sad thing is Shawn forgot we live in a sick world where lies are the foundation of society.

-Peace Mamas

A better reflection

In "the 2ND gate of hell" I wait for my number to be called. While waiting a woman comes in with her daughter. The lady next to me knows the woman and they greet one another. "She gets on my nerves... I can't stand her", said the woman with the little girl. I look at the child and then look at her. The woman stands there looking at her daughter annoyed as the child smiles back at her. The little girl is full of life with light in her eyes and a sweet little voice. I smile at her and think she looks just like her mother but better. The mother doesn't look that great, but I believe once upon a time she looked very similar to her daughter.

Life has taken over the mothers looks as the child is full of youth. Our little ones are only better reflections of us. One day our children will have little ones that are greater than them. I have a mini me that looks just like me. I look at his eyes and see me. I only hope that he is better than me. As I look at my own reflection I wonder has life got the best of me? Will my own children see the frustration and tiredness in my eyes? I don't cast judgement on the woman I saw but she made me wonder about my self. Our mirror image doesn't just reflect from a mirror but reflects also from our child's eyes.

-Peace Mamas

Be careful what u say...

Hey Mamas, If your not from Baltimore then you wont know our Mayor Sheila Dixon. She has been a little firecracker lately. I write this blog not to say how great she is but how selfish she has been. Ms. Dixon received a raise in her salary while others lower on the scale suffer. Its been reported the city council use money on frivolous things and spend tax payers money. Ms. Dixon gets on television and tells the public she deserves her raise and has a family to support. I'm thinking and no one else works or has a family. I say do a good job as Mayor first before you say you deserve something. After seeing how others reacted about her response Sheila now wants to donate her raise to charity,lol.

Sorry Ms. Dixon, your too late you said how you felt and you cant take it back. What would you see if you remained in front of a camera? Many people on reality shows always say after the show that's not me they edited it to make me look bad. Words can't be changed after you say it on live television. Often we say things or do things to others that cant be taken back. You can say sorry but that person wont forget your words. I my self have said harsh things to others. I think its even worse when your in a high position on the news speaking reckless. Words to the wise listen more than you speak, choose your words carefully, and think about how your actions might affect others. I know we all have to work on this but Sheila you can't erase your words by saying you had an epiphany over night. You were selfish and all of Baltimore knows it.

-Peace Mamas

Give me a minute to my self !!!

I get up 3am usually on the dot. I don't know why I guess that's the schedule the little boy in my womb has me on. Around that time I get time to my self to think, eat(yes I eat 3am in the morning), read, or study. Today my ritual was rudely interrupted by a crying baby boy sliding down the steps to find me downstairs on the computer. You never know how grand your me time is until someone ruins it. As I type my blog Mr. Pharez is laying on me now pinching my lips.

Everyone needs a little me time. Mamas definitely need a little me time to reflect upon their day, their thoughts, or to just get caught up on anything they haven't done in a while. My twin will sit and read a magazine cover to cover and don't interrupt her,lol. I find that amazing because I just look at pictures half the time. Take out a minute to your self everyday. I promise you wont regret it. Hey, if a certain little on tries to interrupt it act like their not there, lol. Well That's it for me today Mamas, I cant ignore the face of a certain little one that wants me to go back to sleep with him.


-Peace Mamas

The Growth of a Great Woman

My sister, my close friend, my ace, and the list can go on forever is getting married. I am so very excited for her because she is an amazing woman. When I first met her in Owings Mills Mall I never knew what our relationship would become, but I watched her grow into a new person. The girl I knew became a woman before my eyes. I know after she is married her growth will continue.

When your a little girl all you do is think of the day you will be older like your mother or big sister. You blink your eyes and here you are in the midst of growth. Growing up doesn't end when you become a woman it continues and keeps changing. Some women look like women but still act like girls. Some little girls look like young ladies but try to act like women.

Growth is a process that Christ will guide you through. You don't have to push or force the process. As a woman growing into something great recognize the opportunities before you for that change.

A caterpillar would never change into a beautiful butterfly if it never made the cocoon...

Peace Mamas

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Beauty Tip Reminder

Hey Mamas,

If you forgot the best way to not have crusty lips this winter you must do this...

When you brush your teeth brush your lips as well. you can do it during or after. Always do this once a day and your lips should stay chap free.

Don't forget give your lips some hydration after a good scrubbing.

-Peace Mamas

Beauty Tip 4 a Wonderful Morning!!!

Hey Mamas! Need a morning energizer treatment.

Here are 2 ways to get you bright and refreshed for the day.

Play up beat fun music while washing your face and putting on makeup.

Scrub your body with a Coffee Scrub!!!

All you need is 1cup of coffee and some shower gel.

Mix it together and get scrubbing!

Have fun!!!

-Peace Mamas

Life is full of disappointments

Two days a go I got the news I'm having a little boy. I was very disappointed because I really wanted a girl. I thought I would have tons of girls not 5 boys, lol. Yes, I might sound selfish and ungrateful and sorry if I offend. I felt just like the frowning little girl in the picture. I was sad and had my time to be upset and disappointed.

Life can be full of disappointments but we must always remember the good things in our life. There is nothing wrong with being disappointed. My girl Qee let me know it's okay and I know that because I wont stay in that feeling forever. I can't say this is the last baby for me. I will leave it in the Lord's hands. I love my boys never get it twisted but that wont stop me from wanting a girl.

Times are getting hard and there will be major and minor disappointments in you life. Your life wont wont seem so bad if you keep in mind all the great things & people within it. Feel disappointed but don't stay there and let it fester. Keep it moving Mamas!!!



-Peace Mamas

We all sometimes have 2 hang up the cape...

I saw my mother do it all from taking care of us, going to work, picking up my father, and so much more. As a child I never stopped to think how hard she worked. In my mind that was how she was and liked doing those things. Although sometimes we would hear her fuss she still was the one cooking and cleaning until we were old enough to help. We still depended on her for many other things.

Now I have my own children and find it funny that they don't care if your tired or sick they want you to do it all. I went to my doctor last week and she has in her mind I have it all together. I guess because she believes most of her patients with a lot of children and on the next one look like a train wreak hit them. I come in dressed, hair, and makeup done. The only reason I do this is because I don't want to lose all of me. I do say to women that do it all in the household and outside the house, hang up the cape sometime and just relax.

There will always be more laundry to do, a dirty bathroom to clean, another trip to the store, and the list can go on forever. I realized that sometimes all won't get done and I wont beat my self up about it. I haven't all the way learned to say no to everything I must or want to do. I have decided to stop worrying and sometimes sit down and say that will have to wait. I will take my cape off and the "S" on the chest because sometimes I can't do it all. Ask me about my fun filled week coming up and I tell you something different,lol.

-Peace Mamas

Searching 4 Baby girl

If you don't know by now I have 4 little boys. I love them dearly but since day one I've been wanting a little girl. Growing up in house with so many women I thought I was bound to have girls. My first son I hoped was a baby girl and so on and so on. At each ultrasound I laid there hoping not hear those words "it's a boy!". Yes, I was disappointed and cried sometimes too. After I saw my little boys face I was happy. I can't get that longing for a girl out of my system. Yes, I want to have fun dressing her up and all that comes with the frills and thrill of baby girls, but there is more than that to my longing. I'm pregnant again and haven't found out the sex of the baby. I stay up at night wondering if she has arrived. The waiting sometimes feels like torture to me.

I want a little girl because I always wanted to raise my daughter to be better than me. You always want your daughter to not go through some of the things you went through. I know you can teach a boy all these things but it's different. A bond between a mother and daughter is special. If your a good mother your daughter will always cherish that bond. I dream of the day my daughter getting married, having children, and carrying on me. I wait for them to say "its a girl!!!". A little princess for me. So cross your fingers for me even if you have your doubts, lol.

-Peace Mamas

Heels of Glory

Kiss those crusty, cracking and ashy heels goodbye. I know some of us Mamas have this problem but fear no more, I have a trick to share with you...

You need 1. Stidex pads

2. Vaseline, coco butter, or something

thick 2 coat the skin.

3. Cotton thick socks

First wipe the Stridex pad all over the heel.

Then spread the Vaseline over the heel.

After that put the sock on over the foot with the combination spread over the heel.

Do this on both heels for 5 days and you will have smooth heels.

I don't know if this works for the entire bottom of the foot but try it. I saw this on Oprah not too long ago and it peaked my interest. The lady sharing the tip said the salicylic acid in the Stridex pads helps to remove the dead skin. I say try it and see for yourself .

-Peace Mamas

True Class: We always bring it!!!

Yesterday, I was checkin for Michelle Obama. I was very proud to see her stand out like the starlet she truly can be. Mama was dressed in a Narciso Rodriguez original. I looked at the other women on the platform wearing ugly suits and here comes Mrs. Obama styling like no other. Mama is in a class of her own and does it with much grace. All I can say is the dress was beautiful.I remember her saying to Jay Leno she got her outfit from J.Crew We can make a thrift store outfit look like it's worth millions. Take note from Mrs. Obama 1st lady of class & style. She shows us being a lady is wonderful, feminine, and doesn't have to cost a fortune.

-Peace Mamas

The Beauty Business is still on top

It's not amazing to me that even in this horrible economic times "the beauty business" is still making money. As times get harder cosmetic sells soar. After 911 happened it was reported that spa services, cosmetic sells, and hair care were at a high. Saying all this when the going gets tough buy a new lipstick. We all know that won't take away the problems we have but it sure is nice to look good. Feeling better about your appearance can always be a boost. So go out and buy that one favorite beauty product you just cant live without. I think I'll go buy some mascara, that's my favorite beauty product. See you in a beauty store near you!!! If your feeling guilty remember Blaque Beauty Mama said it okay to treat your self 2 one thing, lol.

-Peace Mamas